A Poem on Poverty

Child offering a cup to an elderly traveler beside a sailing ship

This poem about poverty can help families begin teaching children empathy and compassion by talking honestly about poverty and the different experiences other people face.

The Compassion of a Child

A rich man traveled the ocean blue
to a Philippine island and the city of Cebu.
He owned his own ship to travel the sea
with his wife and two daughters, age 1 and 3.

His wife had been born there
and her family still lived there.
Her daughters, Johanna and Autumn-Marie,
had never met their mom's family.

The girls wore dresses which were new.
Autumn-Marie wore pink and Johanna blue.
But their cousins’ clothes were old and worn.
Some had dirty spots and others were torn.

The kids went outside under the hot sun.
They ran around and had lots of fun.
The clothes got all dirty and blacked,
so new clothes had to be unpacked.

Their cousins had no other clothes to wear.
Some of them only owned a few pair
that their mothers' scrubbed and
cleaned in the river water by hand.

All the cousins went into the hotel shower.
It took all of them over an hour
to clean clothes, skin and hair
and to dry the only clothes they had to wear.

All enjoyed dinner and there was much to eat
even a very special Filipino treat
called Halo-halo made with fruit, milk and ice.
Johanna said it was very delicious and very nice.

The next day all the girls and boys
played with Johanna's and Autumn-Marie's toys.
The cousins had no toys of their own.
They often played with sticks and stones.

Johanna started to feel a little bit sad,
because of how little her cousins had.
She let her cousins take her toys home,
so that they would have some of their own.

Johanna is just a little 3-year-old kid
but her daddy noticed what she did.
He said, "That was very nice of you."
He decided there was something he must do.

He sold his luxury ship and made a plan
to buy some new homes and some land.
He also bought chickens, cows and seed
to raise and grow food to meet the family's need.

He bought new clothes for the kids to wear.
He became the answer to the family's prayer.
They were no longer poor and in need
because of Johanna's 1st loving deed.

My wife is a Filipino. The story is fiction, but the poverty in the Philipines is real. We’ve seen it first hand.

As children learn to notice others’ needs, practice kindness, and share what they have, this simple poem about poverty and generosity can support them in growing in understanding, empathy, and genuine care for those around them.

Ways to Pray for Your Children

Parent kneeling beside a sleeping child under a quilt

When my wife and I attended a marriage conference a few years ago, a speaker described how he prayed for his children. He wasn’t praying in general terms, ‘Lord, bless my kids.’ He was praying specifically. He prayed by name, by need, and for the future.

I sat in that room and felt the conviction quietly arrive: I hadn’t been doing this. I was praying for my kids the way I used to fill out forms — technically present, not really engaged.

That day changed how I pray. I’ve been praying since, and I’m still learning.

Recently I came across an article on how to pray for your adult kids. While my kids are not adults, I read the article and found some prayers applicable to them; others I adjusted to fit young kids.

Here are my recommendations for praying for young kids, based on what I’ve learned and what I intend to continue praying for my kids.

Pray for Their Heart

Proverbs 4:23 CSB: “Guard your heart above all else, for it is the source of life.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”

Lastly, we are to love the Lord with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength – Matthew 22:37 NKJV.

Our children’s hearts are critical. We need to pray that the Holy Spirit would guard their hearts, that they would trust God with all their heart and love the Lord from their heart. Pray that our children will be kids after God’s own heart, like David was from his youth.

I pray this specifically because I know what it cost me to do things I wanted rather than follow God’s heart. I want them to know and follow God’s heart earlier than I did.

Pray for Their Mind

Romans 12:2 ESV: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” 

2 Corinthians 10:5 ESV: “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.”

Our kids are bombarded with toxic ideas and ways of thinking contrary to God’s Word. Not only are the things they see and hear on social media, but also the things they hear and see from other adults and children are not always in line with what God says is true and right.  We need to pray that God will renew our children’s minds and take every thought captive.

My daughters are on social media. They spend more time on YouTube than we do as a family watching TV.  I’ve seen what they encounter, and it frightens me. Not because they’re bad kids, but because the ideas coming at them daily are relentless. This is why we talk about what they see. I don’t just pray; I try to guide them through conversations.

Pray for Their Emotions

Philippians 4:6 NIV: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

Proverbs 29:11 NIV: “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.”

Ecclesiastes 3:4 NIV: “A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”

My kids are going through puberty. Their emotions are difficult for them to handle as the hormones wreak havoc. Kids in general need to learn how to handle their emotions. Pray that God will help them not to be anxious and to control their anger. Pray that they will not be ashamed to weep, laugh, mourn, and celebrate when the situation calls for it.

I’ve gotten it wrong more times than I’d like to admit — responding to their emotions with impatience rather than understanding. I pray for them partly because I’m still learning to manage my own.

Pray for Their Physical Bodies

1 Corinthians 6:19–20 NKJV: “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore, glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s”

Romans 12:1 NKJV: “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service”

Pray for protection over our kids’ bodies. I have often prayed Psalm 91 over my kids. Pray for their physical health and that they would use their bodies to glorify God rather than disgrace him.

I encourage our kids to get outside and play. I encourage them to eat healthy and try to set the proper example. They see me bike to exercise, and they know I’m on a diet that restricts sugar and processed foods. They get on my case when I “cheat” on the diet.

Pray for Their Future Spouse

Genesis 2:18 ESV: Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Proverbs 18:22 ESV: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 ESV: “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;”

One of the things that surprised me at the marriage conference was that the father prayed regularly for his kids’ future spouses. My wife was already doing this, but I wasn’t. I realized from this man’s example that I should.

We should pray that God is preparing the right spouse for our kids now and that they know God at a young age. We should pray that our kids are kept away from sexual temptation and that if they do encounter it, God will give them the strength to flee like Joseph.

My kids see the choice I made, and they’ve heard our story on how God put us together. You can read some of our story in this post. My wife and I have a covenant marriage. Our covenant hangs on the wall, and we’ve read it to our kids. I pray they will learn from our example and also have a covenant marriage.

Pray for Their Education

Proverbs 22:6 KJV: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Deuteronomy 6:6–7 NKJV: “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.”

The primary responsibility of educating our children lies with the parents, but many of our kids, including mine, attend school. I pray for my children when I drop them off at school, following in my mother’s example, who took them to and from school before I did.

There are so many dangers in this world, and school shootings have been becoming common. We need to pray for protection over our kids.

Teachers don’t always teach the same values that we want our kids to learn. We need to pray that teachers would teach our kids Biblical values and exemplify them.

My daughters go to a Christian school, and eventually I will homeschool them. The school is more in line with our values as parents than a public school would be, but still there are things we disagree with. I’m not particularly happy that the school rewards with candy, so I’m constantly warning my kids of the danger of too much sugar.

My kids ask me to pray about upcoming tests, and so I do, out loud. My kids pray about their own tests.

Praying for education is critical. Our kids’ education shapes their future.

Pray for Their Future Careers

Colossians 3:23 NIV: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters”

Proverbs 16:3 NIV: Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.

My kids are being prepared for their careers as they go to school and as they experience life. My youngest believes she wants to be a VET. My oldest is considering being a teacher.

I’ve worked from home, and my kids have seen me work and have asked about what I do. My wife’s job is in our home. She takes care of three people with intellectual disabilities in our home. Our daughters get a bird’s-eye view of their mom working.

We need to pray that our kids are led by God in their calling. We need to pray that God prepares them now for their future.

Pray for Their Friends

Proverbs 27:17: NKJV “As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

Proverbs 18:24 NIV: “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

Friendships are critical for our kids. Pray they choose their friends wisely. Pray they influence their friends for good and vice versa.

My oldest has navigated some painful situations with friends this year. I didn’t always handle them well as a father. At times she was in tears. I was too quick to try to fix it and too slow to listen. But I’ve been praying more specifically about who God is bringing into her life.

She eventually resolved the issue and followed some of my advice. It is still hard. Sometimes they are best friends, and sometimes they are more like enemies. I know they are growing through their friendships. I’m praying that they do.

Pray A Blessing Over Your Children

Genesis 27:27 NIV: So he went to him and kissed him. When Isaac caught the smell of his clothes, he blessed him.”

Mark 10:13-16 NIV:  “People were bringing little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them, but the disciples rebuked them. When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, ‘Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.’ And he took the children in his arms, placed his hands on them and blessed them.”

Blessing our children is not just praying for them; it is specifically asking God to show his favor and blessings for their present and future. I have several times laid my hands on my kids and blessed them. Sometimes it has been as simple as saying Numbers 6:24–26  NIV: “The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” I like the ERV version, “May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord smile down on you and show you his kindness. May the Lord answer your prayer and give you peace.” Sometimes it is speaking about their future as Jacob did with his sons.

The blessing of our children is very special and important.

Continuing to Pray

After the marriage conference, I prayed more for my kids, but I let it slip. After reading the article on Crosswalk, I’m motivated to pray more. When I pray specifically — by name, by need, by the future I can’t yet see — something shifts in me. Not just in them. In me. I become the father they need rather than the one who means well but stays distracted.

These aren’t the only ways to pray for your children. They’re the ones that have changed how I see my daughters — not just as kids to raise, but as people God is already preparing for a future He’s already planned. That’s worth praying into.”

Why Stories Teach What Lectures Can’t

Ivy-covered stone doorway opening onto a glowing enchanted forest path

The Power of Allegory for Christian Families


Imagine trying to teach a nine-year-old about racism by sitting them down and explaining it directly.

You could talk about history, injustice, fear, and prejudice. Showing them facts and figures could impress them. You could try to explain why it’s wrong and what they should think about it.

And they would nod politely. And nothing would change.

Now imagine a grandmother sitting down with her grandchildren and reading about a white mouse who has spent his whole life teaching his family that black rats are filthy and dangerous — until a flood comes and the rat saves everyone the mouse loves most.

Nobody’s family is on trial. Nobody feels accused. But when the grandmother closes the book and asks, “Why do you think Rhubarb felt the way he did about rats?” — something real begins to happen.

That is the power of allegory.


What Allegory Is — And Why It Works

Direct moral instruction can make children defensive or disengaged. When lectured, we listen with the intent to respond. We get defensive. Rarely are we convinced beyond our preconceived ideas and paradigms.

An allegory teaches lessons through story and removes our natural barriers and defenses.

An allegory is a story with a double meaning. There is a surface narrative about characters and events, and a much deeper meaning about human experience, faith, society, or morality running beneath it. The characters and situations are fictional, but what they represent is entirely real.

Aesop’s Fables is one of the most famous examples of allegory. In the Tortoise and the Hare, two fictional characters race. The slower one wins not because of speed, but because of consistency and determination. The lesson of consistent determination is universal and applicable to life.

According to the American Journal, allegory serves as a valuable tool for facilitating discussions and promoting a deeper understanding of complex subjects.

The article “Talking about Terrible Things: The Craft of Allegory in Children’s Literature” argues that, for younger students who might have difficulty grasping broader themes or topics, allegories can present these ideas in more familiar and relatable contexts.

When a lesson is wrapped in narrative, the brain processes it differently. We have two sides to our brain: the logical, practical side and the emotional side. When processing stories, the emotional side is activated. We experience the story more personally and more memorably than when it’s delivered as a direct proposition. You don’t just understand the idea. You feel it. And what you feel, you remember. Emotions are a powerful teacher.

The Precedent

Before we look at books, it’s worth remembering where allegory comes from.

Jesus repeatedly used narrative and parable to communicate truths that could have been expressed propositionally. Rather than lecture about compassion, he told of a man left dying on a road and the Samaritan who stopped to help. To illuminate forgiveness, he described a father running to welcome his prodigal son home. And instead of defining eternal life, he spoke of a man who found a pearl of great price and sold everything to possess it.

The parable of the Good Samaritan and the Prodigal Son are allegories. Even the seven letters to the seven churches in Revelation carry allegorical dimensions. God has always used story to open doors that lecture cannot.

John Bunyan understood this. His Pilgrim’s Progress — one of the most widely read books in Christian history — follows a character named Christian on a journey from the City of Destruction to the Celestial City. Every encounter, every obstacle, every companion is allegorical. Yet millions of readers over three centuries have found themselves in that story in ways no theological treatise could.


Examples of Allegory

The Chronicles of Narnia: Allegory in a Child’s World

C.S. Lewis understood that children think concretely before they think abstractly. You cannot hand a nine-year-old a theology textbook. But you can hand them a story about a great lion who dies on a Stone Table and rises again. They will feel the weight of the cross before they have the vocabulary to name it. They will feel Lucy and Susan’s sadness as they watch Aslan’s sacrifice.

The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe is probably the most famous example. Aslan’s substitutionary death and resurrection mirror Christ’s sacrifice. Edmund’s complete forgiveness reflects divine grace rather than karma or endless guilt. The White Witch tempts Edmund with a sweet treat through small compromises, showing how deception leads to bondage in a way a child can see and feel. Edmund betrays his family much like Judas betrayed Jesus.

Other books in the series

But Lewis didn’t stop there. Every book in the series carries its own allegorical weight:

The Magician’s Nephew explores creation by spoken word and the temptation and fall of man, mirroring Genesis. The Horse and His Boy teaches divine guidance, providence, and the stripping away of human pride. Prince Caspian encourages faith when revival or deliverance seems delayed. The Voyage of the Dawn Treader illustrates spiritual transformation. Eustace is “un-dragoned,” which points toward our inability to save ourselves. The Silver Chair warns believers to hold fast to the Lion’s core command amid distraction. The Last Battle depicts judgment and the transition to Aslan’s Country — heaven itself.

Seven books. Seven doorways into truths that, taught directly, might bounce off a child’s heart. Wrapped in story, they walk in through a different entrance.

In Lewis’ Own Word

Lewis himself said it plainly — and it became the opening words of my own Complete Companion Guide: “A children’s story that can only be enjoyed by children is not a good children’s story in the slightest.”

He wasn’t writing for children. He was writing about the truth that children and adults share.


The Kingdom Series: Allegory for the Whole Bible

Chuck Black, a Christian fiction author and former F-16 fighter pilot, wrote the six-book Kingdom Series — medieval action allegories that retell the Bible from Genesis to Revelation for ages eight and up. The books are widely used as family read-alouds and homeschool devotionals, with discussion questions tied to Scripture at the back of each volume.

On an episode of Schoolhouse Rocked, host Aby Rinella welcomed Chuck to discuss why making room for doubt and hard questions is essential in Christian homeschool families. Rather than treating a child’s spiritual doubt as a threat, Chuck argued that it can become a doorway to deeper, more personally owned faith.

Chuck’s approach to this is through story. A child who asks hard questions about God while reading an allegory about knights and battles is not in danger — they’re in the safest possible environment to wrestle with what they believe and why.

Chuck and I share the same conviction: the right story can open a door that a direct conversation sometimes can’t.


Redeeming Rhubarb: An Allegory of Mice and Rats

When I set out to write a story about prejudice, I didn’t want to use human characters. If I chose human characters of specific races or ethnicities, readers who didn’t belong to those groups might disengage. They might feel accused, or disconnected, or simply unrepresented. The lesson I wanted to teach would only reach part of the audience it was meant for.

So I chose mice and rats.

I made a deliberate allegorical decision. The same instinct that led C.S. Lewis and Chuck Black to write allegories, led me.

It’s rooted in the Biblical example of Jesus, who tells stories about farmers and fishermen rather than making direct accusations about the Pharisees’ behavior.

By using animals, I removed the human element entirely. A grandmother can sit down with her grandchildren and discuss racism from the perspective of mice and rats without pointing fingers at anyone in the room, to parents or neighbors. The conversation can go where it needs to go. They can discuss fear, prejudice, and what hatred costs the one who holds it without anyone feeling personally attacked.

Reversing Preconceived Notions

I also chose mice and rats specifically to challenge existing biases. Most readers arrive with a pre-formed reaction to each animal. Mice are cute and small and sympathetic. Rats are dirty, dangerous, and feared. I reversed those expectations entirely.

In Redeeming Rhubarb, the rat is the hero — wise, patient, sacrificial, and forgiving. The mouse is the one causing harm, hating, and trying to destroy. That reversal is deliberate. The moment a reader realizes they’ve been rooting for the wrong animal is the moment the allegory does its deepest work — because they begin to ask why they assumed what they assumed, and whether those assumptions extend to people.

How Children Experience a Story

Children experience a story differently than adults do. They don’t analyze it from a distance. Instead, they enter it. They inhabit the characters, feel what the characters feel, and carry those emotions with them long after the book is closed.

In Redeeming Rhubarb, that emotional journey runs through three very different characters. Children will see themselves in each one and feel their emotions.

Barnabas awakens their compassion. He is kind to the very mouse who despises him and forgives when he has every reason not to be. Children who follow Barnabas feel what genuine grace looks like before they have a word for it. They don’t need to be told that loving your enemies is the right thing to do. They watch Barnabas do it, and they feel why it matters.

Strawberry gives children a voice. Her sadness and frustration over her father’s blindness and watching someone she loves refuse to see what is right in front of him is one of the most relatable experiences in the book. Children who have ever known an adult who was wrong about something important will recognize Strawberry’s position immediately. She becomes the reader’s representative inside the story, asking the questions the reader wants to ask.

And Rhubarb brings them closest to the truth about themselves. His prejudice is not cartoonish. It has reasons such as real grief, real wounds, real history. As his hatred brings painful consequences to the family he loves, children feel his growing shame before he does. They see it coming before he can admit it. And when he finally falls to his knees, the relief they feel is not just his — it is theirs. Because Rhubarb is not a villain; he is a broken person who finally lets himself be reached.

That is what allegory accomplishes that a lecture never could. Children don’t just learn about prejudice and forgiveness — they experience them, at a safe distance, inside the lives of a mouse and a rat.

Allegory is a Tool

American Journal states that through symbolic representations and metaphors, readers can approach complex subjects from a new perspective, making them more relatable and accessible. This, in turn, creates a space for dialogue and exploration, enabling readers to engage with the text and share their insights and interpretations.

That is exactly what happens when a family reads Redeeming Rhubarb together. The story is about mice and rats. The conversation is about us.

Why This Matters for Your Family and Homeschool

Research confirms what storytellers and scripture writers have always practiced. Books serve as both mirrors and windows for children — mirrors in which children can see themselves, and windows that widen their world. Allegory amplifies both functions: it gives children a mirror they can look into without feeling exposed, and a window into experiences and moral questions they might otherwise avoid.

Here are three practical ways allegory creates the safe space children need:

  • It removes the personal threat. When the story is about Rhubarb, not about Dad, a child can examine prejudice without the conversation feeling like an accusation. They can disagree with Rhubarb, feel ashamed of Rhubarb, and root for Barnabas — and all of that emotional processing prepares them for the harder conversation about what happens in real life.
  • It invites honest questions. When a child asks “why does Rhubarb hate the rats so much?” they are doing theology without knowing it. They’re asking about the roots of hatred, about inherited fear, about what grief does to a person when it isn’t healed. You can answer that question fully and honestly without anyone in the room feeling implicated or guilty.
  • It makes the lesson stick. Stories can make abstract ideas more memorable and emotionally striking. A child who reads Rhubarb’s story will carry Barnabas’s grace with them long after the book is closed, because they didn’t just learn about forgiveness. They watched it happen, on the page, at real cost, and they felt what it felt like when the walls finally came down.

Where to Start

If you’re looking for allegories to add to your family reading or homeschool curriculum, here are my recommendations in order:

  • The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis — for all ages, start with The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe
  • The Kingdom Series by Chuck Black — excellent for ages 8 and up, strong for family devotions
  • Pilgrim’s Progress by John Bunyan — the original English-language Christian allegory; several excellent children’s adaptations exist
  • Redeeming Rhubarb by Bob Richley — a middle-grade allegory about prejudice, forgiveness, and redemption, with a free 46-chapter Complete Companion Guide available at bobrichleyauthor.store

For more recommendations, see this curated list from a homeschooler: Top 10 Christian Allegory Books & Series for Kids and Teens

The safe space your child needs to wrestle with the hardest questions isn’t a classroom or a lecture. It’s a story. Give them a good one, and then sit down with them and see where it goes.


Resources:

Free Redeeming Rhubarb resources — discussion guides, unit studies, grammar supplements, and the Complete Companion Guide — are available free at bobrichleyauthor.store.

Chuck Black’s Kingdom Series is available at chuckblack.com and wherever Christian books are sold.

The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis is available wherever books are sold.

Parenting With Love: Modeling Kindness Your Children Can See

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Children are always watching — and what they see shapes who they become. This poem explores the quiet but powerful ways parents model behavior, attitudes, and values for their kids, often without realizing it. If you’re thinking about how to raise compassionate, kind children, this one’s for you.

Parent's Be Aware

Beware what you despise,
Your children see it in your eyes.
Be mindful of whom you shun,
For they are watching, every one.

Who do you welcome into your life?
Who do you treat with love or strife?
Do you see the person, not the skin?
Do you welcome those who don't fit in?

Your children pay attention.
They notice more than you might mention.
They see the kindness that you show
And the attitudes you don't always know.

So treat others as you would want to be treated.
Let kindness and compassion be repeated.
For the gifts you give your children each day
Are found not only in what you say.

When you love those who aren't the same as you,
Your children learn what love can do.
Be true to yourself, your family, and God
And let your life show the path you want them to trod.

What This Poem Is About

Children absorb parental attitudes and behaviors more than they absorb words. Whether we realize it or not, we are teaching our kids how to treat others, what to value, and how to respond to the world. Parents are their first and most powerful teachers, shaping not just what children know, but who they become.

Teaching Children Kindness Through Example

Parents are teaching our children things we are not aware we are teaching. Children learn from our behaviors.

Being intentional as a parent means modeling empathy, love, and positive behavior in our daily lives. When we choose kindness in our interactions and children witness it, we teach them far more than any lecture ever could. Children and empathy go hand in hand — and they learn it best by watching us model compassion for others.

Want to explore more about parenting with intention, building character in your children, and creating a home filled with kindness? Check out my full posts on what you’re unknowingly teaching your kids and How Parenting Habits Shape Children’s Views on Race and Others. Discover more resources on parenting, kindness, and raising thoughtful, compassionate children.

What Are You Handing Your Kids Without Knowing It?

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How children absorb the world around them — and what this Colorado dad learned the hard way


When we think about teaching our children values, we usually think about the conversations we have: The things we say, the rules we set, the lessons we explain at the dinner table or before bed.

But children are not primarily learning from what we say. They are learning from what we do — and from what we feel. My kids will learn more from what I do than what I say, lecture, or try to teach them.

I saw that in a way I didn’t expect.

We have three people with intellectual disabilities living in our home. My intention has always been that my daughters would learn compassion from that experience. That they would see what it looks like to care for someone vulnerable who needs more patience than most situations require.

But what I’ve actually noticed is this: when I’m frustrated — and I do get frustrated — my daughters pick that up: Not the compassion I intend, but rather the frustration I actually show.

I’ve seen them repeat things I’ve done out of frustration and express the same verbal frustrations I’ve expressed.

That was a humbling realization. I wasn’t teaching them to be cruel. I wasn’t saying anything negative, but my reactions were forming them anyway — quietly, consistently, in a direction I hadn’t chosen.

My wife is much better at showing compassion. She is the host home provider and takes care of these individuals. She demonstrates patience and compassion, which flow from who she naturally is. My kids learn compassion from her.

I want to learn from my wife. I’m praying that I become more like her.


The Furniture We Don’t Notice

Research shows that children as young as three are already forming group preferences and social attitudes — not from explicit teaching, but from what they observe in the adults around them. By the time most parents realize they’ve been communicating something, the children have already received it.

I think of it as furniture. The beliefs and attitudes we absorb in childhood are just there — already arranged in the room when we arrive. We didn’t choose them. We didn’t even notice them being placed. But they shape the space we move through for the rest of our lives.

This is what I tried to capture in my novel Redeeming Rhubarb. Rhubarb’s pups know that rats are dangerous before they have ever met one. They learned not from a lecture but from watching him live out his fear and hatred day after day.

That’s what most of us are doing. Not maliciously. Not even consciously. But consistently.


What Prejudice Actually Looks Like Up Close

I spent three years as an evangelical Christian living in a lesbian community. I didn’t agree with everything I saw. But I got to know my neighbors as people, as individuals with names and histories and kindnesses and struggles that had nothing to do with the label I had assigned them.

And prejudice, I discovered, comes apart in exactly that way.

  • Not through argument.
  • Not through being convinced.
  • Through relationship.
  • Through proximity.
  • Through the slow accumulation of moments where a person turns out to be more complicated and more human than the category you put them in.

That experience shaped the book — and it shaped the way I think about what we hand to our children.

The question isn’t whether our children will absorb our attitudes. They will. The question is which attitudes, and whether we are paying enough attention to know what we’re actually transmitting.


What to Do When Your Child Says Something That Stops You Cold

Most parents discover what their child has absorbed the hard way — the day their child comes home and repeats something ugly they picked up from a peer, a cousin, a classroom, a screen. Or worse, they are the child who initiated something ugly at school.

That moment is uncomfortable. But it’s also a gift. You found out what was going on in your child’s world before it took root.

Here’s what I’ve found works — and what I wrote into the book:

  • Don’t lecture. Ask questions. Not accusations — questions.
    • Where did you hear that?
    • What do you think it meant?
    • Why do you think someone would say that?
    • If they are the person who said or did something:
      • What prompted you to say or do that?
      • What were you feeling?
      • Why did you feel that way?
    • You’re not excusing the behavior.
    • You’re teaching your child to think rather than react. That’s a different and more lasting thing.
  • Don’t yell. In the book, when Bart’s nephews are cruel to animals, he doesn’t yell at them. He speaks calmly, asks questions, makes them work, and lets them feel the warmth of doing something good. They change — not because he frightened them into it, but because he led them through it. Yelling might produce compliance in the moment. It doesn’t change the heart.
  • Don’t make it a shaming moment. If your child feels attacked for bringing something to you, they’ll stop bringing things to you. And then you’re parenting blind — which is far more dangerous.
  • Do make it a conversation. Ask your child what they think about what they heard or did. Ask them what might be going on in the life of the person who said it. If they were the perpetrator, ask them what is going on in their life. How are they hurting?

In my book, Rhubarb’s prejudice is rooted in real grief — he lost his brother. Knowing that doesn’t excuse what he does. But it does make him comprehensible. And comprehension is where compassion begins.


The Harder Question

I find it easy to talk about what Rhubarb is doing wrong. He’s the cautionary tale. He’s the one whose children are absorbing something he didn’t fully intend.

But when I’m honest with myself — really honest — I know that I am Rhubarb in certain moments, when I’m impatient with the people in my home who need more from me than I feel I can give, when my frustration shows before my compassion does, when I react before I think.

My daughters are watching all of it.

That doesn’t mean I need to be perfect. It means I need to be honest — with them and with myself — about what I’m still learning. There is something powerful about a parent saying “I got that wrong, and here’s what I should have done.” It teaches children that character is not something you are born with or without. It’s something you practice and build, one choice at a time.

The Bible speaks of confession and its healing power. James 5:16, “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” This applies not only to confessing to other believers, but also to confession to our children and spouses.

  • It heals the relationship.
  • It sets an example.
  • It shows vulnerability.

That’s ultimately what Redeeming Rhubarb is about. Not a mouse who was always good. A mouse who was broken in a specific way, for a real reason, and who had to decide — at great cost — to become someone different. That story is available to all of us, including the ones telling it.


To continue this conversation with your family: My free Redeeming Rhubarb Complete Companion Guide includes chapter-by-chapter discussion questions, family conversation starters, and KJV Faith Connections for all 46 chapters — available free at bobrichleyauthor.store.

Unique Family Traditions to Celebrate Each Season

Family and friends gathered around an outdoor table in a colorful garden

Family time is memory-building time. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate or expensive vacation. It can be as simple as a family game or going for a walk together.

Here are a few suggestions for each season of the year.

Spring Traditions to Kick Off the Year

Around Mother’s Day our family usually shops for flowers and then spend the afternoon planting them. It’s a chance to be together and enjoy the beauty of the flowers. Our girls enjoy digging the holes and deciding where to plant each flower.

We also take this time to plant our garden. We plant various vegetables such as lettuce, kale, and peas. The beauty of this is that it takes time for the plants to bloom. It’s a wonderful lesson in patience.

James 5:7

“Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming. See how the farmer waits for the precious land to yield its crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains.

Springtime is also a wonderful time for hikes. We are blessed to live in Colorado near the foothills. It’s a short drive for us to a nice hiking spot near Boulder. Sometimes we travel a little farther to Rocky Mountain National Park or other scenic mountain destinations.

Summer Activities for Family Fun

In the summertime, we love to go swimming, camping, hiking, and horseback riding. One of our favorite destinations is the KOA in Colorado Springs. They have a wonderful mini-waterpark that the kids enjoy. It is also near our favorite horseback riding stable, the Old Stage Riding Stables.

We have two outdoor pools nearby. One has slides and is a bit of a mini-waterpark. The other is a simple pool, a little closer to home. We enjoy both.

If we want something more fun but also more expensive, we have Water World with lots of slides, wave pools, and other fun water rides.

Autumn Celebrations for Family Connection

When our girls were younger, they loved playing in the leaves. I would rake them into piles, and they would jump in and throw leaves at me. We had two tree swings that they could use to leap into the pile. I also had a leaf blower, and they enjoyed running away from the leaves it blew around. Each year, I would get my annual leaf picture of my two girls buried in the leaves.

In autumn, we also would take an annual trip into the mountains to see the fall colors. Sometimes we would drive Peak to Peak Highway and stop somewhere along the road. Other times we would drive further away to the Colorado Trail and go for a short hike.

This year, we plan to take the Cog Railway near Pikes Peak. It’s a 3.5-hour round-trip journey to the Summit of Pikes Peak. Going in late September or early October, we should see brilliant colors along the way.

Winter Festivities to Create Lasting Memories

Near Christmas, one of our traditions is to drive around the neighborhood at night to see all the Christmas lights that our neighbors have put up. We can spend half an hour or more driving. To make it especially fun, we count how many Grinches we see.

Winter is also a wonderful time to play family games. While we play games throughout the year, winter is especially nice. We can light the fireplace, sit nearby drinking hot cocoa, and play games. For some game ideas, check out this blog on fun family games.

Of course, there’s much fun to be had in the snow. We enjoy sledding and snowball fights. We love to go to the Frisco Adventure Park Sledding Hill. It’s a bit of a drive for us, but worth it. There is sledding within walking distance too. Since Colorado has been in a bit of a drought, that option has been less available than we’d like.

Intentiality

Creating memories does not need to be expensive, but it does need to be intentional. Often we go through life letting life happen to us. To create a lasting bond with your family requires intentionality. Plan trips. Set aside time to play games and be together.

What are your plans for each season?

What have been some of your favorite memories already?

Swiss Family Robinson: Turning an Impossible Island Into Learning

Illustration of a tropical village with sailing ship, huts, farmers, and gardens

A story doesn’t have to be scientifically or historically perfect to be educational. Sometimes the very things that are unrealistic about a story give us opportunities to ask better questions.

The Swiss Family Robinson by Johann David Wyss is the story of a shipwrecked family that builds a new life on a remote island.

Set in the late 1700s, the story follows Robinson, his wife Elizabeth, and their four sons—Fritz, Ernest, Jack, and Franz. While traveling toward Australia, their ship is wrecked in a violent storm. The crew escapes in lifeboats and is never seen again, leaving the family stranded aboard the shattered vessel.

Fortunately, the wreck is wedged between rocks within sight of land. The family has enough time to fashion a makeshift canoe and reach the nearby island. They establish a temporary camp on the beach and make repeated trips back to the wreckage to gather supplies they will need to survive.

From there, the adventure really begins.

The family explores the island, builds a bridge across a stream, hunts for food, and eventually moves away from the hot beach to a shady grove where they construct a treehouse. They discover a small sailing vessel packed inside the ship’s hold and put it to use.

Along the way, the father teaches his sons about the plants and animals they encounter. The family works together, solves problems, gives thanks to God, and gradually creates a remarkable new life.

And there is one other remarkable thing about the island.

Almost none of it makes sense.

There Is a Problem with the Island

Could an island really contain all the plants and animals found in The Swiss Family Robinson?

Probably not.

Could a family really build and accomplish everything the Robinsons do?

That’s questionable, too.

The island described by Wyss couldn’t exist as presented.

Kangaroos, flamingos, buffalo, penguins, monkeys, and other animals from very different parts of the world somehow find themselves living together on the same tropical island. Animals that belong to completely different parts of the world appear together as though the island were a floating Noah’s Ark.

The geography doesn’t work.

The ecosystem doesn’t work.

And the engineering is exaggerated, too.

Critics have been pointing out these problems for a long time. The inaccuracies aren’t limited to natural history. Scholars have also noted problems with the book’s geography and seamanship. Captain Frederick Marryat was so bothered by what he considered the book’s implausibility that he later wrote Masterman Ready, in part as an alternative to Wyss’s version of the shipwreck adventure.

So should we throw The Swiss Family Robinson away?

I don’t think so.

In fact, I think the very things that make the story unrealistic can make it a wonderful starting point for learning.

When an Impossible Island Becomes a Classroom

Wyss was a Swiss pastor, and the story began as an educational project for his family. He wasn’t simply trying to entertain his sons with a great adventure.

He was trying to teach them.

That helps explain the remarkable variety of plants, animals, natural resources, and practical problems the Robinson family encounters.

Wyss sacrificed geographical accuracy for educational opportunity.

He created an island where his fictional family could encounter an astonishing variety of plants and animals, giving the father figure opportunities to teach his sons about nature, science, and the practical uses of the world around them.

In other words, the island isn’t really a geography lesson.

It’s a classroom disguised as an adventure story.

And that distinction matters.

What Can We Learn by Asking, “Could They Really Do That?”

When we read Swiss Family Robinson with our children, we don’t have to accept everything in the story as fact.

Instead, we can ask questions.

  • Could that really happen?
    • Then look it up.
  • Would that animal really live there?
    • Find a map.
  • Would that plant grow in that climate?
    • Research it.
  • How did they build that?
    • Try to figure it out.
  • Could we build one?
    • Now we’re doing engineering.
  • What would we need to survive?
    • Now we’re doing mathematics and science.
  • How would they preserve that food without refrigeration?
    • Now we’re talking about chemistry, biology, and practical science.
  • How would they navigate from one part of the island to another?
    • Now we’re learning geography and navigation.

The original story contains discussions involving botany, zoology, geography, agriculture, food preservation, animal husbandry, construction, tools, navigation, hunting, fishing, manufacturing, weather, astronomy, and practical problem-solving.

Literary scholar David Blamires points out that part of the book’s enduring appeal was its combination of adventure and discovery with a father’s instruction in botany, zoology, and geography.

And something else happens in the story that I find particularly valuable. The father isn’t simply a walking encyclopedia. Sometimes he knows the answer. Sometimes he has to investigate. And sometimes he admits that he doesn’t know.

That’s a wonderful lesson for parents.

We don’t have to know everything.

We can learn alongside our children.

  • The family observes.
  • They ask questions.
  • They experiment.
  • They make mistakes.
  • They investigate.
  • They learn.

And that’s a wonderful model for family reading.

The Father as Teacher

One of the most interesting aspects of The Swiss Family Robinson is the role of the father. He isn’t merely trying to keep his family alive. He’s trying to prepare his sons to live. That means teaching them practical skills, but it also means teaching them how to think.

  • When they encounter something unfamiliar, he encourages them to examine it.
  • When they face a problem, they work toward a solution.
  • When they make mistakes, there are consequences.
  • And when something goes well, the family gives thanks.

That last part is important. Wyss was a minister. He made sure to give God the glory and praise for his provision.

The book isn’t simply about survival.

It’s about how a family should live.

Wyss’s original work had a strongly didactic and religious purpose. The story emphasizes work, cooperation, self-reliance, moral responsibility, gratitude, and faith. The Robinsons aren’t simply trying to conquer the island. They are learning how to live responsibly within God’s creation. That makes the story much more than an adventure. It becomes an opportunity to talk about character.

When Books Get It Wrong—and Still Get It Right

This brings me to something I believe strongly about children’s books.

A book doesn’t have to be a textbook to teach.

Sometimes a fictional story can teach us how to think about a subject better than a textbook can. A textbook can tell a child that a particular animal lives in a particular part of the world. A story can make a child wonder why. A textbook can explain how a pulley works. A story can make a child want to build one. A textbook can describe an ecosystem. A story can make a child stop and ask, “Wait a minute. Could all those animals really live together?”

That’s where learning begins.

The book doesn’t have to provide every answer.

Sometimes its greatest value is that it gives us a question worth answering.

When we read The Swiss Family Robinson together, we can stop occasionally and say:

“I’m not sure that’s possible. Let’s find out.”

That simple sentence can change the way a child reads. Reading becomes investigation. Curiosity becomes research. A story becomes a science experiment. A fictional island becomes a geography lesson. A construction project becomes an engineering problem. And a conversation between a father and his sons becomes an opportunity to talk about faith, responsibility, courage, and character.

The book can serve as the beginning of the lesson rather than its end.

Stories Give Us Something to Talk About

This is one of the reasons I believe so strongly in reading with children. The most valuable part of a book may not be the last page. It may be the conversation that happens after you close the book.

  • “What did you think?”
  • “Would you have done that?”
  • “Was that a good decision?”
  • “Why do you think he did that?”
  • “Do you think that would really work?”
  • “What does the Bible say about that?”

Those questions turn reading into something more than entertainment. They turn it into a shared experience. And that is something children need.

  • They need opportunities to wonder.
  • They need opportunities to question.
  • They need opportunities to discover that they don’t have to accept every claim simply because they read it in a book.
  • They also need adults who are willing to sit beside them and say: “Let’s find out.”

From Swiss Family Robinson to Redeeming Rhubarb

This idea is also one of the reasons I wrote Redeeming Rhubarb.

My book is very different from The Swiss Family Robinson, but their underlying purposes are similar.

I believe stories can give families something to talk about.

The Swiss Family Robinson can lead to conversations about nature, science, geography, engineering, responsibility, work, faith, and family cooperation.

Redeeming Rhubarb can lead to conversations about prejudice, fear, forgiveness, kindness, and the choices we make when we encounter people who are different from us.

Neither book is meant to replace a textbook. Neither book is meant to replace Scripture. Instead, a story can open a door.

  • It can make a child curious.
  • It can allow a parent to ask a question.
  • It can bring an abstract idea to life in a character we have come to know.
  • And sometimes that makes a difficult subject easier to discuss.

That’s what I hope Redeeming Rhubarb does for families.

  • Not simply entertain children.
  • Not simply teach them a lesson.
  • But give parents and children something worth talking about.

Don’t Just Give a Child a Book

Maybe that’s the real lesson I take from The Swiss Family Robinson.

Don’t just give a child a book.

Read it with them.

  • Ask questions.
  • Look things up.
  • Challenge assumptions.
  • Try things.
  • Let them wonder.

Let children discover that sometimes the book gets something wrong—and that discovering the mistake can be just as educational as getting the answer right.

And when the story raises questions about character, responsibility, relationships, or faith, don’t rush past those questions either.

  • Stop.
  • Talk.
  • Listen.

Connect the story to the real world. And, when appropriate, connect it to God’s Word. Because a good book doesn’t have to contain everything a child needs to learn. Sometimes it only needs to give them the desire to learn more.

A story doesn’t have to be perfect to be valuable.

The island in The Swiss Family Robinson may be impossible. The adventures may stretch credibility. Engineering may occasionally make us shake our heads. But the questions it can inspire are very real.

And sometimes the best education begins with a child looking up from a book and asking:

“Could they really do that?”

The answer might be no.

But the learning that follows could be very real indeed.

Sources & Further Reading

The Science and History Behind The Swiss Family Robinson

Harvard Gazette — “The Swiss Family Robinson”


Harvard evolutionary biologist Hopi Hoekstra discusses the book’s enduring appeal while pointing out its biological problem: the island’s collection of animals—including flamingos, kangaroos, and buffalo—could not occur together naturally, either in the East Indies or anywhere else on Earth. She also notes the story’s emphasis on optimism, perseverance, and teamwork.

Read the Harvard Gazette article

University of California — Scholarly dissertation on The Swiss Family Robinson


This scholarly study provides particularly useful historical context. It explains that Wyss shaped the island into an educational environment, deliberately assembling an abundance of exotic plants and animals so that encounters with them could become opportunities for instruction. It also discusses Captain Frederick Marryat’s criticism of the book’s liberties with natural history.

Read the University of California study (PDF)

David Blamires — “The Swiss Family Robinson,” in Telling Tales: The Impact of Germany on English Children’s Books 1780–1918


Literary scholar David Blamires examines the book’s place in children’s literature and describes its appeal as a combination of adventure, danger, and discovery with paternal instruction in botany, zoology, and geography. He also describes the Robinson family’s island as an educational rather than geographically realistic setting.

Read the chapter through JSTOR

Cambridge University Press — Children’s Books in English


This scholarly reference provides historical context for the Robinsonade adventure tradition and notes that Captain Frederick Marryat was irritated by Johann David Wyss’s inaccuracies in natural history, geography, and seamanship. Marryat subsequently wrote Masterman Ready (1841).

Read the Cambridge University Press excerpt (PDF)

Encyclopedia of Adventure Fiction


This reference work places Swiss Family Robinson within the adventure-fiction tradition and provides useful examples of the extraordinary variety of animals and other elements found in the story. It is helpful for seeing just how far Wyss’s fictional island departs from a realistic ecosystem.

Read the Encyclopedia of Adventure Fiction (PDF)

Journal of Biogeography — Island Biogeography


For readers interested in the science behind the problem, this scientific literature explains how isolation, dispersal, colonization, competition, and extinction shape the plants and animals found on islands. It provides useful background for understanding why an isolated tropical island could not simply contain animals from widely separated parts of the world.

Read the Journal of Biogeography article

A Reader’s Perspective

iNaturalist Forum — “Does your nature knowledge spoil fiction?”
This discussion offers a more informal, reader-oriented look at the biological problems in The Swiss Family Robinson. Participants point out the story’s geographically improbable mixture of plants and animals. While this is not an authoritative scientific source, it provides an interesting example of how modern readers recognize the same tension between storytelling and natural history.

Read the iNaturalist discussion

Truth, Fiction, and Storytelling

Barbara Kingsolver — Author’s Website
Kingsolver discusses the relationship between factual accuracy and invention in fiction, including how writers use real places while exercising creative freedom. Her discussion provides useful context for thinking about the larger question of how much factual accuracy we should expect from a fictional story.

Read Barbara Kingsolver’s discussion of fact and fiction

The Original Story

Project Gutenberg — The Swiss Family Robinson
For readers who want to explore the story itself, Project Gutenberg provides a freely accessible version of the text. Reading the original makes it possible to see firsthand how frequently the family’s adventures become opportunities for the father to explain nature, science, practical skills, and other subjects to his sons.

Read The Swiss Family Robinson at Project Gutenberg

What Mr. Rogers Taught Us About Raising Good Neighbors

Illustrated autumn neighborhood with neighbors, homes, trees, and a dog

August 31, 2001, was a significant day in children’s television and a sad one in many ways. It was the final time a new episode of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood aired.

For more than thirty years, Fred Rogers invited children into his neighborhood. He changed his shoes, put on his cardigan, fed his fish, talked with children about things that mattered, and then took us to the Neighborhood of Make-Believe.

  • He talked about feelings.
  • He talked about friendship.
  • He talked about being different.
  • He talked about disappointment, fear, kindness, responsibility, and forgiveness.

He did something that seems almost strange today: He slowed down. Far different from much entertainment aimed at kids, there was no constant stream of stimulation, no need to make everything louder, faster, or more exciting. Instead, he talked quietly to children. And he treated them as though what they thought and felt mattered.

I’ve been thinking about Fred Rogers because so much of what he believed about children connects with what I’ve been writing about in these Family Values articles—especially the importance of reading and using stories to teach children how to live.

I don’t think Fred Rogers and I would have agreed on everything.

But I think we would have agreed on something important:

Children are worth our time and attention.

Mr. Rogers Took Children Seriously

Fred Rogers wasn’t originally a television celebrity.

After graduating from college in 1951, he went into television (not the military, as some falsely claimed). But he eventually returned to Pittsburgh, where he became involved with WQED and children’s programming. While working in children’s television, he also studied child development and worked closely with psychologist Margaret McFarland.

That relationship was important.

Fred didn’t simply decide what children needed based on what he thought would make entertaining television. He wanted his programs to reflect what was actually happening in the lives and development of children.

That tells me something about the way he viewed children. He didn’t see them as little adults. But he also didn’t see them as foolish or naive. He trusted them with heavy topics.

Bigotry

The Wading Pool Scene (1969): During an era when many public swimming pools were still segregated or hostile to Black Americans, Fred Rogers invited François Clemmons—who played Officer Clemmons—to cool his feet in a small plastic pool with him. Rogers then shared his towel to dry Clemmons’ feet, much like Jesus washed his disciples’ feet, delivering a powerful, silent visual message against racial discrimination and exclusion.

Death, Assassination, and Tragedy

  • Assassination Specials: Following national tragedies like the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr. and Robert F. Kennedy in 1968, Rogers created special segments to help children process political violence, loss, and fear.
  • Death and Pet Loss: He addressed the concept of death directly—such as when a goldfish died in the neighborhood—teaching children that it is natural to feel sad and confused by finality.

War and Conflict

And he shall judge among the nations, and shall rebuke many people: and they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruninghooks: nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more.

Divorce and Family Changes

  • Divorce: Rogers tackled the emotional impact of parents separating. He assured young viewers that even when adults go through difficult changes and painful emotions, a child is never the cause of a divorce and remains deeply loved.
  • Episodes 1476–1480 — “Divorce” (February 16–20, 1981)
  • This is another five-episode series: Prince Tuesday worries that his parents are going to divorce and even believes the conflict is his fault. The episodes repeatedly reinforce that adult problems are not the child’s fault and give children opportunities to express their fears and feelings.

Disability Rights

Inclusion and Accessibility: Rogers featured guests with disabilities, such as Jeff Erlanger, a young boy using an electric wheelchair. Rogers spoke to him with complete equality and dignity, normalizing disabilities and answering children’s curious questions without pity or stigma.

Difficult Subjects Need to Be Discussed

One of the things I admire most about Fred Rogers is that he didn’t believe children needed to be protected from every difficult subject. He believed they needed caring adults who could help them understand those subjects. He was one of those adults and encouraged others to be.

Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood addressed difficult subjects such as racism, death, divorce, disability, fear, conflict, and other subjects that adults sometimes hesitate to discuss with children. Rogers didn’t simply tell children what to think. He gave them a safe place to encounter difficult ideas, ask questions, express their feelings, and begin making sense of the world around them. He demonstrated these traits through his actions and through stories in The Neighborhood of Make-Believe.

My Own Writing

That is something I have tried to do in my own writing.

My middle-grade novel, Redeeming Rhubarb, also deals with a difficult subject: prejudice and racism. The story was inspired by the real 2013 Boulder, Colorado floods, but the adventure becomes a way for young readers to explore what happens when fear and assumptions cause us to judge people we don’t really know.

The goal isn’t to give children a lecture about prejudice. It’s to give them a story they can experience.

A child can watch characters make choices, see the consequences of those choices, and then talk about what happened. Why did that character act that way? Was it right? What caused the fear? How did the other person feel? What could have been done differently? And, as Christian families, what does Scripture teach us about how we should treat other people?

That approach is very important to me.

Conversations

Like Fred Rogers, I believe difficult subjects can become opportunities for meaningful conversations when children have a trusted adult beside them.

That’s one reason I believe books matter.

A good story doesn’t have to answer every question for a child. Sometimes it simply needs to open the door to a conversation that might not have happened otherwise.

That’s what I hope Redeeming Rhubarb does.

And that’s one of the lessons I take from Mr. Rogers: we don’t help children by pretending difficult things don’t exist. We help them by walking with them as they learn how to face those things—with truth, compassion, courage, and love.

Understanding Children

Fred Rodgers understood that children have real fears, real questions, real disappointments, and real emotions.

Sometimes adults are tempted to dismiss those things.

  • “You’re okay.”
  • “Don’t worry about it.”
  • “It’s not a big deal.”

But to a child, it may be a very big deal. Mr. Rogers was willing to talk about those things. And perhaps that is one reason children trusted him. He didn’t preach. He spoke gently and, more often than not, demonstrated his lesson through a “make-believe” story.

Stories Give Children a Safe Place to Learn

His philosophy has a strong connection to reading. I’ve written before about why I believe books are such an important tool for teaching children values. It’s important to read aloud to kids. We can choose books that teach life lessons. We can teach biblical values through literature.

A child may resist a lecture about honesty, but put a character in a story who lies, and suddenly the child can watch what happens.

  • A character makes a selfish decision.
  • Another character forgives.
  • Someone faces a difficult choice.
  • Someone else shows courage.

The child gets to see the consequences without having to experience every consequence personally.That’s one of the great gifts of literature.

Stories give children a safe place to wrestle with difficult ideas.

Fred Rogers understood something similar.

His television program used stories, puppets, music, and the Neighborhood of Make-Believe to help children think about the issues they were facing in real life. His conversations with child-development expert Margaret McFarland helped him make those stories relevant to children’s actual concerns.

The medium was different.

He used television.

I’m talking about books.

But the principle is remarkably similar.

A story can open a door that a lecture can’t.

Fred Rogers Loved Books

There’s another connection that I find especially interesting.

Fred Rogers himself developed a love of reading as a child because of his childhood librarian, whom he called “Aunt” Sara McComb. According to the Fred Rogers Institute, Fred frequently mentioned her when talking about books and reading. She shared her love of books with children at the library, and Fred learned from that experience. There’s something beautiful about that.

One person who loved books helped a child develop a love for reading. That child eventually became the man millions of children trusted. And decades later, we’re still talking about him. It reminds me that we don’t always know what our influence will become.

  • Maybe you’re the parent reading a bedtime story tonight.
  • Maybe you’re the grandparent taking a child to the library.
  • Maybe you’re the teacher recommending a book.
  • Maybe you’re the librarian who remembers a child’s name.

It may seem like a small thing.

But it may not be small to the child.

An anonymous usher stopped a teenage Billy Graham from walking away from a packed 1934 tent revival in Charlotte, North Carolina. He found seats for Billy and his friend. The revival led Billy Graham to make Jesus his savior. Billy Graham impacted millions of lives and led many of those into a relationship with Jesus. The usher did a small thing, but it had a big impact, a huge ripple effect. Aunt Sara did one small thing that impacted millions of children through Fred Rogers.

Reading Is About More Than Reading

I’ve said this before, but it is worth repeating.

The goal isn’t simply to get through more books. The goal is to let good books get into our children.

When our children were younger, we would snuggle together and read. One of my favorite family memories is reading Charlotte’s Web together, a chapter at a time.

We weren’t simply completing a book. We were sharing an experience. That’s an important distinction.

Reading aloud develops literacy, vocabulary, comprehension, and imagination. But something else happens when a parent sits beside a child and reads.

We build a relationship.

We’re saying:

  • You matter to me.
  • What you’re interested in matters to me.
  • I want to spend time with you.

Fred Rogers understood the importance of that kind of relationship.

His television program wasn’t designed merely to give children information. He wanted children to feel that they were being welcomed by someone who cared about them.

The famous question in his theme song wasn’t simply an invitation to watch television.

It was an invitation into relationship.

Won’t you be my neighbor?

What Happens When We Read Together?

One of my favorite things about reading with children is the conversation that follows. Sometimes the conversation isn’t even about the book.

  • A character makes a choice.
    • “What do you think about that?”
  • A character hurts someone.
    • “Why do you think she did that?”
  • Someone gets treated unfairly.
    • “Was that right?”
  • Someone shows courage.
    • “Would you have been brave enough to do that?”
  • And sometimes we can go even deeper.
    • “What does the Bible say about that?”

Now the book has become a bridge.We’re no longer simply talking about a fictional character. We’re talking about life.

I’ve written about this before because I don’t want my children simply to memorize a list of rules.

  • I want them to learn how to think.
  • I want them to recognize good and evil.
  • I want them to understand consequences.
  • I want them to develop empathy.
  • I want them to ask questions.
  • And ultimately, I want them to compare what they encounter in the world with God’s Word.

A good book can help us do that.

The Final Neighborhood

There’s something almost fitting about what happened in the final episode of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood.

The final week was called “Celebrate the Arts.”

In the Neighborhood of Make-Believe, Lady Elaine had appointed herself the judge of everyone’s artwork. But by the end, instead of judging the other characters, she created a collage celebrating them.

The final episode aired on August 31, 2001.

Think about that.

A program that spent decades teaching children about feelings, relationships, and how we treat one another ended with a story about moving from judgment toward appreciation. That seems remarkably appropriate.

Fred Rogers understood that how we feel about ourselves can affect how we treat other people. And isn’t that something our children still need to learn?

  • A child who feels loved can learn to love.
  • A child who experiences forgiveness can learn to forgive.
  • A child who is listened to can learn to listen.
  • A child who is treated with patience can learn patience.

A child who spends years hearing good stories about courage, kindness, sacrifice, friendship, and forgiveness has a vocabulary for understanding those things when they encounter them in real life.

We Can’t Always Be There

There comes a point when our children leave the house.

  • We can’t follow them everywhere.
  • We can’t hear every conversation.
  • We can’t see every decision.
  • We can’t answer every question.

That’s one reason I believe so strongly in giving children good books. A good story can stay with them. Years after we’ve finished reading a book, a character may come back to them.

  • They may remember what happened to Wilbur.
  • They may remember Charlotte’s sacrifice.
  • They may remember Heidi’s love for her grandfather.
  • They may remember a character who showed courage when courage was difficult.

And perhaps, at some point, they’ll face their own difficult decision and remember that story. That’s when the book has become something more than a book. It has become part of them.

What Kind of Neighbors Are We Raising?

Fred Rogers wanted children to understand that they were valuable and that other people mattered.

I want the same thing for my children, but I want to go one step further.

  • I want them to understand why people matter.
  • I want them to understand that every person is created by God.
  • I want them to understand that Jesus commanded us to love our neighbors.
  • I want them to understand that loving someone doesn’t mean approving of everything that person does.
  • I want them to understand forgiveness without confusing forgiveness with pretending that wrong doesn’t matter.
  • I want them to understand that courage sometimes means standing up for what is right.
  • I want them to understand that compassion means looking beyond the surface and trying to understand another person’s story.

Those lessons don’t have to come only through lectures. They can come through conversations. They can come through Scripture. And they can come through stories.

Start With One Book

You don’t need a huge library or a complicated curriculum. You don’t need to spend hours preparing a lesson. Start with one book. Sit beside your child.

  • Read.
  • Listen.
  • Talk.
  • Ask questions.
  • And when the story presents an opportunity, take it.
    • “What would you have done?”
    • “Why do you think he did that?”
    • “Was that a good choice?”
    • “How did that make the other person feel?”
    • “What does the Bible say about this?”
    • Then listen to the answer.
  • Don’t immediately correct.
  • Don’t turn every conversation into a sermon.

Sometimes our children need us to listen more than they need us to talk.

Fred Rogers understood the power of listening, slowing down, and taking children seriously.

I think we could use a little more of that today.

One Child. One Book. One Conversation.

The last original episode of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood aired twenty-five years ago.

Fred Rogers died in 2003, but the neighborhood he created hasn’t really disappeared. His impact hasn’t left us.

  • Every time we teach a child to be kind, we extend it.
  • Every time we listen to a child’s question, we extend it.
  • Every time we help a child understand someone else’s feelings, we extend it.
  • And every time we sit down with a child and open a good book, we have another opportunity to build that kind of neighborhood in our own home.

We don’t have to change the world all at once.

We can start much smaller.

  • One child.
  • One book.
  • One conversation.

Maybe that’s how we raise better neighbors.

And maybe, years from now, our children will remember those quiet moments—not because we gave them another lesson, but because we gave them something better.

  • We gave them our time.
  • We gave them our attention.
  • We gave them stories.

And through those stories, we helped them discover what it means to love God, love their neighbor, and live a life of character.

That’s a legacy worth leaving behind.

References

The following sources were consulted for the information about Fred Rogers and Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood discussed in this article.

  • Fred Rogers Institute — About Fred Rogers
    A comprehensive biography covering Fred Rogers’ childhood, education, family, early television career, study of child development, work with psychologist Margaret McFarland, and his philosophy of serving children and families.
    About Fred Rogers — Fred Rogers Institute
  • Fred Rogers Productions — Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood
    Information about the purpose of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, its approach to children, and its learning goals, including empathy, imagination, respect, self-esteem, emotional regulation, and social skills.
    Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood — Fred Rogers Productions
  • Fred Rogers Institute — Fred Rogers Archive
    An Extensive archive preserves more than 22,000 items from Fred Rogers’ life and work, including writings, photographs, scripts, and other materials that document his ideas about childhood, families, education, and reading.
    Fred Rogers Institute Archive
  • Fred Rogers Institute — The Simple Spiral of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood
    Documents the first episode, which aired February 19, 1968, and the final original episode, #1765, Mister Rogers Celebrates the Arts, which aired August 31, 2001. It also discusses the closing moments of both episodes and the continuity of Rogers’ message throughout the series.
    The Simple Spiral of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood
  • The Neighborhood Archive — Episode 1765
    Detailed information about the final original episode, Mister Rogers Celebrates the Arts, including its August 31, 2001 air date and the stories and activities featured in the episode.
    Episode 1765 — The Neighborhood Archive
  • The Washington Post — “For Mister Rogers, a Final Day in the Neighborhood”
    Contemporary reporting published September 1, 2001, describing the final new episode and Fred Rogers’ decision to end the series without a traditional television farewell.
    For Mister Rogers, a Final Day in the Neighborhood — The Washington Post

Learn more about Redeeming Rhubarb: Redeeming Rhubarb — Reading With Your Kids

Explore Bob Richley’s books and resources: Bob Richley — Christ-Centered Books for Families.

How to Use Poetry in Home Education: A Complete Guide

Worn Selected Poems beside a pen and eyeglasses

Benefits of Using Poetry in Home Education

Poetry can be a wonderful addition to a home education because it gives children something that many other forms of writing do not: freedom to play with language, ideas, sounds, emotions, and imagination.

When children write prose, they are usually expected to communicate their thoughts in complete sentences and organized paragraphs. Poetry can loosen those boundaries. A poem might rhyme, repeat words, break grammatical conventions, use unusual imagery, or even invent words. Children can experiment with language simply to see what happens.

That freedom can make poetry less intimidating and more enjoyable while developing important skills in reading, writing, vocabulary, creativity, observation, and communication.

I have experienced this freedom in my own poetry. Some of my poems are highly structured, while others are much more conversational. Some use rhyme extensively, while others depend more on imagery and ideas. This variety is one of the things that makes poetry so valuable for education.

Experiment With Language

One of the simplest benefits of poetry is that it allows children to play with words.

Rhymes, rhythms, repetition, alliteration, unusual word combinations, and even nonsense words can become part of the creative process. Children begin to notice not only what words mean but also how words sound together.

A child might start with something as simple as:

The cat sat next to the rat.
How fun is that?

There isn’t much literary sophistication in those two lines—and that’s precisely the point. A young child has discovered that cat, sat, and rat sound alike and can be combined to create something amusing.

This poem I wrote many, many years ago, based on a true story. It’s a fun a poem that younger readers should enjoy

Peepy, Poopoo, Potty

The adult was the one who started
With a joke that included a person who farted
Which started the kids laughing before the punch line.

Then they all took their turn on stage
From oldest to the youngest of age
Telling jokes about farts, poops and pots.

The children laughed and giggled loudly
As each had a turn at being a star proudly
Simply telling their jokes and being silly tots.

When the three year old's turn came
He did not pause to think but merely exclaimed
'Peepy, Poopoo, Potty!'

And got the biggest laugh of all.

As children become more comfortable with language, they can begin experimenting with more complicated combinations.

For example, in my fantasy poetry, I created names and words that fit the poem’s imaginary world. In The Battle of Elmond, I use names such as Restiny and connect the name to the word destiny. The poem tells how the Pools of King Elmond eventually became the Pools of Restiny after men came seeking their own destiny.

This kind of wordplay can become an excellent homeschool activity. Ask your child:

  • Can you invent a character with a name that has a hidden meaning?
  • Can you create three words that rhyme with the character’s name?
  • Can you make up a word and explain what it means?
  • Can you write four lines in which every line ends with a rhyming word?
  • Can you tell a story using words that begin with the same sound?

Children are learning about phonics, vocabulary, spelling, rhythm, and sentence construction—but they are also having fun.

Poetry turns language into something children can experiment with rather than memorize.

Discover Rhythm and Rhyme

Poetry also teaches children to hear the rhythm of language.

Consider the difference between ordinary prose and a rhyming poem. In prose, we generally concentrate on communicating the idea. In poetry, we become much more aware of the sounds and patterns of the words.

For example, I often use rhyme in my poems. In my poem Senses of the Soul, I have this stanza.

Warm days fill us with delight
As dawn breaks into the light.
Colorful flowers bloom and grow
As the cool breezes blow.

The rhyme isn’t merely decoration. It gives the poem a pattern that helps the reader anticipate what comes next.

Children can discover this themselves by experimenting with different endings:

The dog ran down the street.
He thought the world was pretty neat.

Then challenge them to change the rhythm:

The little dog went running down the street,
His tiny paws went pitter-patter feet.

They can hear that poetry isn’t simply about finding words that rhyme. It is also about how the words move when we read them aloud.

Reading poetry aloud is therefore particularly valuable in homeschool education. Encourage children to clap the rhythm, emphasize certain words, experiment with pauses, and read the same poem in different ways.

Create Sensory Imagery

Poetry gives children an opportunity to turn an idea into a picture.

Instead of simply saying:

The waterfall was beautiful.

a poet might write about crystal water falling into a quiet pool.

In The Great War Between Men and Elves, I describe an imaginary landscape using colors, architecture, water, flowers, and movement:

Scarlet and violet flowers
Accenting gold and white towers,
Encircled by pools of green and blue,

The purpose is not simply to tell the reader that the setting is beautiful. The descriptive language encourages the reader to see the scene in their imagination.

This is an excellent exercise for children.

Take an ordinary object—a rock, a tree, a cup of water, a snow-covered window—and ask the child to describe it without naming it.

  • What does it look like?
  • What color is it?
  • What does it feel like?
  • Is it warm or cold?
  • Does it make a sound?
  • Does it have a smell?
  • What does it remind you of?

Then turn those observations into a poem.

This teaches children to pay attention to the world around them. They begin to discover that ordinary things can become extraordinary when we look closely enough.

One of my poems, Importance, grew out of precisely this kind of observation. My daughter stops to examine things that I might otherwise hurry past—such as an ordinary stone or a piece of trash. What looks insignificant to an adult can become fascinating to a child.

Poetry can help children recover that sense of wonder.

There Is No Single Right Answer

Poetry is flexible and personal.

A child doesn’t have to produce a poem that looks exactly like the teacher’s example. Two children can be given the same subject and produce completely different poems—and both can be successful.

  • One child might write four rhyming lines.
  • Another might write free verse.
  • Another might write a humorous poem.
  • Another might write a serious poem about how the subject makes them feel.

That freedom can be especially valuable for children who become frustrated when every writing assignment seems to have one “correct” answer. I’m a mathematician, but my daughters complain about math. One mistake and the whole problem is wrong. It is devastating. Poetry doesn’t have the problem. Poetry can be free from rules, unstructured, and creative.

Of course, poetry can have rules. There are sonnets, haiku, limericks, ballads, and many other poetic forms with specific structures. Learning those forms can be educational in itself.

But structure doesn’t eliminate creativity.

Even Shakespearean sonnets follow recognizable rules while allowing tremendous variation in vocabulary, imagery, ideas, and emotional expression.

In writing poetry, children can therefore experience both structure and freedom.

They can learn the rules of a particular poetic form and then discover how creatively they can work within those rules.

Or they can put the rules aside and write.

Both experiences have educational value.

Emotional Freedom

Writing Poetry

Poetry can also give children a safe way to explore emotions. I often express my feelings with poetry. In trying to process my dad having cancer for the second time, I wrote this poem:

Out of the Depths

Sometimes situations make no earthly sense,
The pain is sharp and the darkness dense.
We climb deeper into our hole of despair
And can barely grasp for any air.

Looking at the wind and the waves, we sink
Our hope, faith, and trust are on the brink
Of slipping into the depths of the stormy sea.
In desperation, we cry to be set free.

It is then that Hope reaches down His hand,
Encouraging us to take our final stand.
Looking up into Love's tender eyes,
We find the strength and courage to rise.

This poem uses the imagery of darkness, storms, sinking, and rising to express despair and hope. The emotions aren’t presented simply as a list of statements. They are communicated through images:

Sometimes situations make no earthly sense,
The pain is sharp and the darkness dense.

The poem eventually moves from desperation toward hope and courage.

It is then that Hope reaches down His hand,
Encouraging us to take our final stand.

Another example is My Dad, which expresses love, gratitude, memories, and admiration through a series of descriptions of a father who was present, loving, firm, gentle, and influential.

These poems illustrate an important educational principle: poetry allows us to express what we sometimes cannot easily explain.

Children sometimes have difficulty explaining complicated feelings in ordinary conversation. A poem gives them another way to communicate.

They can write about happiness, sadness, anger, fear, disappointment, friendship, loneliness, hope, love, or confusion without having to explain everything directly.

Reading Poetry

Reading poetry offers another dimension of emotional education. A child may read a poem and understand it differently from another child—or differently from the poet who wrote it. As a poet, I’ve experienced how people understand my poems. I’ve read their comments and seen that they interpret the poem through their own paradigm.

Every reader brings experiences, memories, beliefs, and emotions to what they read.

This doesn’t mean every interpretation is equally supported by a poem’s words. But it does mean that poetry can open the door to meaningful conversations:

  • “What do you think the poet is feeling?”
  • “What makes you think that?”
  • “Have you ever felt that way?”
  • “What picture came into your mind when you read this?”
  • “Would you have described the feeling differently?”

These questions encourage children to think beyond simply identifying the “correct answer.” They learn to support their interpretations with evidence from the poem while also recognizing that another reader may see something they missed.

Poetry Encourages Observation, Reflection, and Wonder

One of poetry’s greatest gifts to a homeschool education is teaching children to slow down and notice things.

Poetry asks us to pay attention to a word, a sound, an image, a feeling, or a moment.

That can be especially valuable in a culture where distractions constantly surround children.

In Importance, I contrast the hurried perspective of an adult with the slower, more observant perspective of a child. My daughter sees wonder in ordinary things while I am focused on getting somewhere. The poem ultimately asks whether adults sometimes miss the beauty around us because we are too busy.

That makes poetry more than a language exercise.

It can become an exercise in attention.

A child who learns to notice the color of the sunset, the sound of rain against a window, the shape of a cloud, the texture of tree bark, or the expression on someone’s face is developing the raw material of poetry—and also developing the habits of a thoughtful observer.

Poetry teaches children to look at the familiar and ask:

  • What am I missing?
  • What else could this mean?
  • How does this make me feel?
  • How can I describe it in a way someone else can experience?

Those are valuable questions far beyond the poetry lesson.

Choosing the Right Poetry for Different Ages

One of the advantages of poetry is that there is a form for almost every age and reading level. Parents don’t have to begin with difficult, serious poetry. In fact, some of the best introductions to poetry are playful, funny, rhythmic, and even a little silly.

As children grow, their exposure to poetry can grow with them. The goal isn’t necessarily to move from “easy” poetry to “hard” poetry, but to introduce children to increasingly varied ways of using language, imagery, structure, ideas, and emotion.

Young Children: Rhyme, Rhythm, Humor, and Imagination

For younger children, poems with rhyme, repetition, humor, animals, nature, nonsense words, and strong rhythms are often a natural place to begin. The goal at this age is to help children enjoy the sound and playfulness of language.

Fun Poetry

Dr. Seuss is an excellent example. His books demonstrate how much fun children can have with rhyme, rhythm, repetition, invented words, and unusual sound combinations. His poems don’t simply tell children what words mean—they let children experience what words can do.

Shel Silverstein is another wonderful choice. Poems such as Ickle Me, Pickle Me, Tickle Me Too invite children into a world where the ordinary rules of reality can be set aside. The poem’s playful rhyme, rhythm, repetition, and fantastic imagery demonstrate that poetry doesn’t always have to make literal sense to be enjoyable.

Edward Lear provides another excellent introduction through nonsense poetry. His poems demonstrate that language can be funny and imaginative even when the situations described are impossible.

This kind of poetry gives children permission to laugh, imagine, and experiment.

Other good choices for younger children include poems by A. A. Milne and Jack Prelutsky. Edward Lear’s nonsense poetry, in particular, shows children that words can be enjoyable even when they describe things that could never really happen.

At this stage, don’t worry too much about explaining every poetic device. Let children hear the rhythm, repeat favorite lines, laugh at the humor, and notice the sounds.

Biblical Poetry

But children can also be introduced to biblical poetry at a young age.

Psalm 23 in the King James Version is particularly accessible because it uses familiar images: sheep, green pastures, still waters, paths, a valley, a table, and an overflowing cup.

The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

Although A young child may not understand every theological or poetic detail, they can understand the pictures. They can imagine green grass, quiet water, a shepherd, and sheep.

Parents can ask simple questions:

  • What pictures do you see in this Psalm?
  • What does a shepherd do for sheep?
  • What do you think “still waters” means?
  • Which image do you like best?
  • Can you draw the scene described in the Psalm?

Psalm 23 also introduces children to an important aspect of poetry: it can communicate ideas through pictures.

The Psalm doesn’t simply say, “God takes care of me.” It gives the reader a picture of a shepherd caring for his sheep.

That is poetry.

Discussion

You can ask simple questions:

  • What part did you like best?
  • What words rhymed?
  • Can you make up a silly word?
  • Can you write a poem about a ridiculous animal?
  • Can you make up a character who lives somewhere impossible?

The child is already learning about language and poetry—even when they think they are simply having fun.

Elementary-Age Children: Imagery, Nature, Storytelling, and Figurative Language

As children become more confident readers and writers, they can begin exploring sensory imagery, figurative language, nature poetry, storytelling, and simple poetic forms.

Robert Frost is particularly useful at this age because his poetry often begins with things children can understand—a road, a snowy evening, a wall, a tree, or a walk through the woods—and uses those familiar subjects to explore deeper ideas.

For example, Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening offers opportunities to discuss the sights and sounds of a winter landscape while also reflecting on the speaker’s thoughts and responsibilities.

Frost can help children see that a poem can be about something ordinary on the surface while suggesting something much deeper beneath the surface.

Children can also explore Emily Dickinson, whose short poems often use nature and everyday observations to explore larger ideas. Her poems can be especially useful for teaching children that a poem need not be long to say something significant.

At this stage, children can begin identifying:

  • Similes
  • Metaphors
  • Personification
  • Repetition
  • Alliteration
  • Rhyme
  • Rhythm
  • Sensory imagery

They can then try these techniques themselves.

For example, after reading a poem about winter, ask the child to describe snow without using the word snow. What does it look like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like? What could it be compared to?

This turns literary analysis into a creative exercise.

Older Elementary and Middle School: Form, Voice, Humor, and Meaning

As children grow, introduce them to poets who demonstrate a wider range of poetic forms and subjects.

Shel Silverstein remains valuable even for older children because his poems often contain surface-level humor while raising interesting questions beneath the surface. A funny poem can still encourage children to think about responsibility, consequences, imagination, relationships, and human behavior.

Robert Frost can be revisited at this age as students become better able to recognize symbolism and multiple meanings.

Students can also explore poets such as Langston Hughes, Walt Whitman, Christina Rossetti, William Blake, and Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.

This is a good age to introduce more formal poetry.

Children can experiment with:

  • Haiku
  • Limericks
  • Ballads
  • Narrative poems
  • Acrostics
  • Sonnets
  • Free verse

They can also begin comparing poets.

  • How does Frost describe nature compared with Dickinson?
  • How does Silverstein use humor differently from Dr. Seuss?
  • How does a poem with strict rhyme and meter feel different from free verse?

These comparisons help children understand that poetry isn’t one particular style. Poetry is a broad form of expression with many voices and possibilities.

Teenagers: Deeper Themes, Symbolism, History, and the Human Experience

Teenagers can begin exploring poetry that explores more complex themes, including identity, relationships, morality, suffering, faith, responsibility, death, hope, injustice, and the human experience.

This is an excellent time to introduce William Shakespeare, particularly his sonnets. Shakespeare provides an opportunity to study poetic structure while also exploring timeless subjects such as love, beauty, aging, jealousy, time, mortality, and human nature.

Students can learn that a sonnet has a recognizable structure and rhyme scheme without every sonnet expressing the same idea or emotion.

Robert Frost can also be revisited at this level. Poems that initially seem like simple descriptions of nature can become opportunities to discuss symbolism, choices, responsibility, isolation, and the passage of time.

Teenagers can also explore poets such as:

  • William Shakespeare — sonnets, love, mortality, time, human nature
  • Robert Frost — nature, choices, responsibility, symbolism
  • Emily Dickinson — mortality, nature, faith, isolation, perception
  • Langston Hughes — identity, dreams, race, hope, and American life
  • Walt Whitman — individuality, nature, humanity, and American identity
  • Edgar Allan Poe — beauty, grief, death, atmosphere, and the darker side of human experience
  • William Blake — innocence, experience, morality, imagination, and spirituality
  • Christina Rossetti — faith, love, sacrifice, temptation, and mortality
  • T. S. Eliot — modern life, spirituality, uncertainty, and meaning
  • Rudyard Kipling — character, responsibility, courage, and perseverance

At this age, poetry can become a bridge between literature and philosophy.

Instead of simply asking, “What poetic devices did the author use?”, parents can ask:

  • “What is this poet saying about life?”
  • “Do you agree?”
  • “What evidence in the poem supports that interpretation?”
  • “Has the meaning changed for you after reading it a second time?”
  • “How might someone with a different life experience interpret this poem?”

These questions encourage teenagers to move from identifying literary techniques to thinking critically about ideas.

Don’t Be Afraid to Read the Same Poet More Than Once

Parents don’t have to abandon children’s poets just because children get older.

A child may laugh at a Shel Silverstein poem when they are eight and discover something entirely different in the same poem when they are thirteen.

The same is true of Robert Frost, Shakespeare, and many other poets.

One of the wonderful things about poetry is that we change as readers.

A poem we barely understand at ten may become meaningful at fifteen. A poem we enjoyed simply because it rhymed when we were young may reveal a deeper idea when we encounter it again years later.

That is one reason poetry is worth keeping in a child’s education over the years—not as a subject that children eventually “graduate” from, but as a form of literature they can continue to discover.

Sometimes a poem should be enjoyed.

  • Read it aloud.
  • Laugh at it.
  • Talk about the images.
  • Notice the rhyme.
  • Ask what the child thinks it means.
  • Then, when appropriate, dig deeper.

Activities to Incorporate Poetry in Homeschooling

Poetry does not need to be a separate, formal subject. It can easily be woven into other areas of a homeschool education.

1. Nature Poetry

Take a nature walk and have your child collect observations rather than objects.

Ask them to write a poem about what they saw, heard, smelled, or felt.

2. Five-Senses Poetry

Choose an object and describe it using all five senses.

This is a simple way to introduce sensory imagery.

3. Rhyme Challenges

Give your child a word and see how many rhyming words they can find.

Then challenge them to use those words in a poem.

4. Nonsense Poetry

Let children invent words.

What does the word mean?

How is it pronounced?

What words rhyme with it?

Can they write a poem using their invented vocabulary?

5. Poetry from History

After studying a historical event, ask your child to write a poem from the perspective of someone who experienced it.

This combines creative writing with history.

6. Science Poetry

Choose something from a science lesson—a planet, animal, chemical element, cell, weather event, or ecosystem—and turn it into a poem.

This encourages children to process what they have learned rather than merely memorize facts.

7. Rewrite a Poem

Read a poem together and ask your child to rewrite it from another character’s perspective.

How would the story change?

What would that character see or feel?

8. Poetry Journaling

Keep a poetry notebook where children can write whenever inspiration strikes.

Not every entry needs to be polished.

The notebook can be a place for experiments, observations, silly rhymes, serious thoughts, unfinished poems, and ideas for future writing.

Resources and Tools for Educators

Parents don’t need an elaborate curriculum to begin using poetry at home.

A good poetry education can start with a collection of age-appropriate poems, a notebook, something to write with, and a willingness to read together.

My own poems can also provide examples for parents who want to show children different approaches to poetry—from fantasy and storytelling to family memories, nature, faith, and reflections on life.

You can use a poem in several ways:

  • Read it aloud.
    Listen for rhythm, rhyme, and repeated sounds.
  • Talk about it.
    Ask what the child notices and what they think the poem means.
  • Visualize it.
    Ask the child to draw a picture of what they see as they listen.
  • Analyze it.
    For older students, identify metaphors, similes, rhyme schemes, meter, symbolism, and poetic structure.
  • Imitate it.
    Write a new poem using the same structure but a completely different subject.
  • Respond to it.
    Ask the child to write a poem expressing their own response to the original.

The goal isn’t simply to teach children how to identify poetic devices.

The goal is to help them discover that words are tools they can use to think, imagine, create, observe, and communicate.

Poetry permits children to play with those tools.

And that is one of the reasons poetry deserves a place in home education.

Conflict Resolution: Be Quick to Listen

Family reading books together on a bed in a warmly lit bedroom. Peace instead of conflict

Why Don’t We Listen?

I used to think I was a patient person.

When I was single, I could do what I wanted when I wanted. I was on time without waiting for someone else. When I spent time with kids, it was only for a few hours. Yet others even told me I was patient. They saw that I worked with children, played with them, taught them, and generally got along well with them.

Then I got married, and everything changed and discovered something about myself.

  • I was selfish and impatient, and I wanted my way; therefore, I wanted people to do things when I thought they should.
  • I wanted people to understand what I was saying.
  • I wanted to be heard.

And when they didn’t? I became frustrated. Sometimes I became angry.

I’ve come to realize that one of the roots of my anger is remarkably simple: I want my way.

When I was without a family, I didn’t think I had an anger issue. But when I got married, I found myself upset when we ran late and impatient with my kids and my wife. I could no longer do what I wanted, when I wanted. I felt angry. Why? Because I am selfish. I like what I think and believe is best; after all, I am always right.

I’m still working on this issue. God is making progress, but I am still dealing with anger and selfishness. Allow me to share what I’m learning about why anger is destructive and how God is helping me to choose love instead.

Why Conflict?

Conflict happens often because we don’t listen.

  • We have our own preconceived thoughts, opinions, and paradigms.
  • We all want to be heard and understood, so we advocate for our position.
  • We believe we are right and will argue to prove it.

The results of this self-centered thinking and behavior are devastating. At a minimum, we wound others emotionally. At worst, wars and conflicts break out, killing millions of people.

The Remedy – Be Quick to Listen and  Slow to Speak

Let’s look more practically at how we can overcome our anger. James 1:19-20 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” This is often my prayer for myself. I want to be quick to listen and slow to speak.

By the power of the Holy Spirit, we can listen to others with understanding.

Do you know why we become angry? Because we want our own way. We don’t want to listen to another way.

We need to listen to others and, most importantly, listen to God. It’s not my way, my wife’s way, my kids’ way; it is God’s way that we need. When we disagree, pray. Listen to what God wants.

We are often quick to speak because we want our way and to be heard. That is selfish. We need to seek what others want. Philippians 2:3-4 says: “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others more important than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Listen to what others want. Notice that human anger doesn’t accomplish anything good. Verse 20 says, “because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” This is all the more reason we need to seek God’s will if we want the righteousness God desires.

When Bedtime Isn’t Peaceful

Our bedtime routine includes family devotions with our daughters. This is meant to be a peaceful time where we encounter God through prayer and reading his word. However, we often struggle to meet at the same time. The girls need to get ready for bed, which includes brushing their teeth, washing their faces, getting on pajamas, and getting clothes ready for school the next day.

My wife is a host home provider, which means we have people with intellectual disabilities living in our home, and she has to make sure medication is taken, teeth are brushed, and a host of other little duties. Sometimes I assume my wife is done, or she says she’s ready, but the girls aren’t. When the girls are not ready, she may do another task like prepare lunches for the next morning.

Communication breaks down. We fail to listen. My wife may say she’s preparing lunches, but I don’t hear. I may say, “Let’s meet in the bedroom,” but that’s not understood. We are all rushed and heading in different directions. When we finally assemble, there’s no peace and much misunderstanding. I’ll defend what I did. My wife will defend what she did. My girls will defend their behavior. Conflict arises because we don’t listen; instead, we defend.

What should be peaceful and prayerful turns into a minor conflict, hurt feelings, and stress. Why? Because we fail to listen. Nobody in the room is necessarily trying to cause a problem. We’re simply failing to listen.

This is a simple example, but it gets far worse. I know my wife and kids have been in tears because I didn’t listen and understand. My girls have had conflicts with a friend because there was no listening or understanding.

Wisdom from Proverbs

Proverbs repeatedly warns us about the danger of too many words.

  • Proverbs 17:28 says that even a fool can appear wise if he keeps silent.
  • Proverbs 10:19 similarly warns that when words multiply, sin is not far behind.
  • Proverbs 18:13 says we need to listen before we answer. We need to understand what the other is saying and then respond; otherwise, we may come across as unprepared.

That’s uncomfortable for me because when I am angry, I want to talk, justify myself and be understood. I want to explain, to defend myself, and ensure the other person understands why I’m correct.

But perhaps wisdom sometimes looks like keeping my mouth shut long enough to understand someone else.

Why Do We Become Angry?

I don’t think all anger starts with hatred. Anger is a secondary emotion. Often, a feeling like sadness or hurt lies beneath the anger.

Anger sometimes starts with something much simpler than mere hatred. It’s rooted in selfishness.

  • I want my way.
  • I want to be respected.
  • I want to be heard.
  • I want things done my way.
  • I want people to recognize that I’m right.
  • I want my plans to work.
  • I want someone else to change.

When I don’t get what I want, frustration begins. If I hold onto that frustration, it can become anger.

Philippians 2:3–4 tells us to “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

That Scripture gives us the opposite of selfishness: humility. Humility is seeing God for who he is and ourselves for who we are. When we are prideful and selfish, we are making ourselves God. Instead, we need to let God be God. He knows what is best because he created us.

The two greatest commands are to love God and to love others as ourselves. We love others best when we put their interests ahead of our own. This doesn’t mean letting them walk over us or always giving in to their way, but it does mean listening to their desires, wants, and thoughts with understanding.

A Personal Example: Bedtime

As I said, my wife is a host home provider, which means we have mentally handicapped people living in our home. For a time, we had only 2. We recently had the opportunity to take on another. I was generally against the idea. I think it’s too much of a burden on my wife. We’ve had 3; it seemed to overwhelm her at times. Also, to have 3, we need to consolidate our girls into one room. They were 9 and 11 at the time and beginning to express their own independence. They wanted to decorate and arrange their room however they wanted. It isn’t easy to get them to agree. They wanted their own room.

We’ve twice turned down potential clients. We prayed and asked friends to pray. Each time, to my relief, we felt God said, “No.” We didn’t fight, though we disagreed. My wife felt stressed and concerned each time. She really wanted the extra income and security of having 3, so if one leaves, she has 2. When the 3rd possibility was presented, it looked more like God was saying “yes.” I had to pray because our girls were definitely opposed to it, and I wasn’t exactly in favor of it.

As I prayed, it came to me to take our girls out to Starbucks and listen to their objections. We did. They objected, but as we talked, we started to consider committing to having one leave by the time the oldest was 13. Everyone agreed with this. My wife expected one of them to move out on their own by that time, which is why she wanted the security of having 3. We agreed that if one didn’t move out, we would let them go. It’s still a bumpy road.

We could have given in to what the girls wanted, or we could have demanded what their mother wanted. Instead, we listened, and we reached a third alternative.

I didn’t take my daughters to Starbucks to convince them I was right.

I took them there to hear them.

That distinction matters.

If I had already decided the answer, asking questions would have been nothing more than a debating tactic. I was waiting for them to finish so I could explain why they were incorrect.

Instead, I tried to listen.

When I stop trying to be heard and start trying to understand, conflict changes.

This situation could have exploded into anger. I could have been angry at my wife for wanting to separate our girls and possibly overwhelm our family. I could have been angry at my daughters for resisting. Instead, we chose to listen, pray, and seek God’s will together.

Listening Doesn’t Mean Agreeing

  • I can hear my wife without agreeing with her.
  • I can hear my children without giving them everything they ask for.
  • I can hear someone who disagrees with me without changing my beliefs.

Listening means I care enough to understand. Sometimes, after listening, I’ll still say no. But at least the other person knows that I heard them.

The Most Important Person to Listen To

Ecclesiastes 5:2 says, “Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God.”

There is someone else we need to listen to before we make our decisions: God.

Ecclesiastes warns us not to be hasty with our mouths or our hearts before God.

Sometimes I become so busy trying to make everyone else hear me that I forget to listen to God. Sometimes I so selfishly want my way that I fail to remember, “Thy will be done.”

I pray, but am I listening? Prayer is not just asking God for what we want. It’s not just telling him our problems. Prayer is not just asking God for what we want. It’s not just telling Him our problems. We also need to pause and listen—to seek His will through Scripture, the guidance of the Holy Spirit, and wise counsel. Put aside our agenda and our wants and ask, “What do you want, God?”

I ask God to bless my decision, but am I willing to change my decision if He leads me somewhere else?

Responding to Anger

Proverbs 15:1  says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” I’ve learned how true that is in my own home. When my kids are angry, and I respond angrily, I haven’t solved anything. I’ve added another angry person to the room. Or worse, I’ve brought my kids to tears. I’ve wounded them emotionally.

James 3:2 says, “We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is able, just like a person who puts a bit in a horse’s mouth, to control their whole body.”  James reminds us that we all stumble in many ways, especially in what we say. Controlling our tongue is difficult because our words reveal what is happening inside us.

When I’m angry, my words often reveal that I am thinking about myself.

  • I want.
  • I deserve.
  • You should.
  • You always.
  • You never.

Those words aren’t really about solving the problem.

They’re about defending myself, getting my selfish way.

Listen, Speak Carefully, and Forgive

Listening may prevent some conflicts, but we will still hurt each other. We are imperfect people living together. Even when we listen, we will misunderstand. Even when we speak gently, we will sometimes say the wrong thing.

That’s where forgiveness comes in.

Colossians 3:13 says to “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you”

When someone hurts us, our natural response is to defend ourselves and hold onto the offense. Scripture gives us another way: “forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

Forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending nothing happened. It doesn’t mean allowing someone to continue hurting us. It means giving up our desire for revenge and trusting God with justice.

Back to Bedtime

I’m not writing this because I’ve mastered anger. I’m writing it because God is teaching me how destructive my anger can be—and how much better His way is.

Sometimes I wish I could say I’ve figured this out. I haven’t. There are still evenings when we’re all tired, everyone is trying to get somewhere, nobody quite hears what the other person said, and frustration begins to rise.

But now I recognize the pattern. Someone says something. I misunderstand, become frustrated and want to defend myself. My voice gets louder. And suddenly, our peaceful family devotion has become a source of conflict.

That’s my signal. I need to look inward, not outward.

I remind myself:

Stop. Listen.

  • What is my wife actually saying?
  • What are my daughters actually saying?
  • What am I assuming?

And most importantly:

What is God asking me to do?

I don’t always get it right. In fact, I probably still get it wrong more times than right. I’m an imperfect human, but I’m learning that being quick to listen and slow to speak isn’t just good advice for avoiding arguments.

Being quick to listen and slow to speak isn’t just good advice for avoiding arguments. It’s a way of loving my family.

Scripture References:
James 1:19 (NIV): “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”
James 1:20 (NIV): “…because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
Proverbs 17:28: “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.”
Proverbs 10:19: “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.”
Proverbs 18:13: “To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.”
Ecclesiastes 5:2: “Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God.”
James 3:2: “We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is able, just like a person who puts a bit in a horse’s mouth, to control their whole body.”
Colossians 3:13: Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
James 3:2: We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.
Proverbs 15:1: A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”