Swiss Family Robinson: Turning an Impossible Island Into Learning

Illustration of a tropical village with sailing ship, huts, farmers, and gardens

A story doesn’t have to be scientifically or historically perfect to be educational. Sometimes the very things that are unrealistic about a story give us opportunities to ask better questions.

The Swiss Family Robinson by Johann David Wyss is the story of a shipwrecked family that builds a new life on a remote island.

Set in the late 1700s, the story follows Robinson, his wife Elizabeth, and their four sons—Fritz, Ernest, Jack, and Franz. While traveling toward Australia, their ship is wrecked in a violent storm. The crew escapes in lifeboats and is never seen again, leaving the family stranded aboard the shattered vessel.

Fortunately, the wreck is wedged between rocks within sight of land. The family has enough time to fashion a makeshift canoe and reach the nearby island. They establish a temporary camp on the beach and make repeated trips back to the wreckage to gather supplies they will need to survive.

From there, the adventure really begins.

The family explores the island, builds a bridge across a stream, hunts for food, and eventually moves away from the hot beach to a shady grove where they construct a treehouse. They discover a small sailing vessel packed inside the ship’s hold and put it to use.

Along the way, the father teaches his sons about the plants and animals they encounter. The family works together, solves problems, gives thanks to God, and gradually creates a remarkable new life.

And there is one other remarkable thing about the island.

Almost none of it makes sense.

There Is a Problem with the Island

Could an island really contain all the plants and animals found in The Swiss Family Robinson?

Probably not.

Could a family really build and accomplish everything the Robinsons do?

That’s questionable, too.

The island described by Wyss couldn’t exist as presented.

Kangaroos, flamingos, buffalo, penguins, monkeys, and other animals from very different parts of the world somehow find themselves living together on the same tropical island. Animals that belong to completely different parts of the world appear together as though the island were a floating Noah’s Ark.

The geography doesn’t work.

The ecosystem doesn’t work.

And the engineering is exaggerated, too.

Critics have been pointing out these problems for a long time. The inaccuracies aren’t limited to natural history. Scholars have also noted problems with the book’s geography and seamanship. Captain Frederick Marryat was so bothered by what he considered the book’s implausibility that he later wrote Masterman Ready, in part as an alternative to Wyss’s version of the shipwreck adventure.

So should we throw The Swiss Family Robinson away?

I don’t think so.

In fact, I think the very things that make the story unrealistic can make it a wonderful starting point for learning.

When an Impossible Island Becomes a Classroom

Wyss was a Swiss pastor, and the story began as an educational project for his family. He wasn’t simply trying to entertain his sons with a great adventure.

He was trying to teach them.

That helps explain the remarkable variety of plants, animals, natural resources, and practical problems the Robinson family encounters.

Wyss sacrificed geographical accuracy for educational opportunity.

He created an island where his fictional family could encounter an astonishing variety of plants and animals, giving the father figure opportunities to teach his sons about nature, science, and the practical uses of the world around them.

In other words, the island isn’t really a geography lesson.

It’s a classroom disguised as an adventure story.

And that distinction matters.

What Can We Learn by Asking, “Could They Really Do That?”

When we read Swiss Family Robinson with our children, we don’t have to accept everything in the story as fact.

Instead, we can ask questions.

  • Could that really happen?
    • Then look it up.
  • Would that animal really live there?
    • Find a map.
  • Would that plant grow in that climate?
    • Research it.
  • How did they build that?
    • Try to figure it out.
  • Could we build one?
    • Now we’re doing engineering.
  • What would we need to survive?
    • Now we’re doing mathematics and science.
  • How would they preserve that food without refrigeration?
    • Now we’re talking about chemistry, biology, and practical science.
  • How would they navigate from one part of the island to another?
    • Now we’re learning geography and navigation.

The original story contains discussions involving botany, zoology, geography, agriculture, food preservation, animal husbandry, construction, tools, navigation, hunting, fishing, manufacturing, weather, astronomy, and practical problem-solving.

Literary scholar David Blamires points out that part of the book’s enduring appeal was its combination of adventure and discovery with a father’s instruction in botany, zoology, and geography.

And something else happens in the story that I find particularly valuable. The father isn’t simply a walking encyclopedia. Sometimes he knows the answer. Sometimes he has to investigate. And sometimes he admits that he doesn’t know.

That’s a wonderful lesson for parents.

We don’t have to know everything.

We can learn alongside our children.

  • The family observes.
  • They ask questions.
  • They experiment.
  • They make mistakes.
  • They investigate.
  • They learn.

And that’s a wonderful model for family reading.

The Father as Teacher

One of the most interesting aspects of The Swiss Family Robinson is the role of the father. He isn’t merely trying to keep his family alive. He’s trying to prepare his sons to live. That means teaching them practical skills, but it also means teaching them how to think.

  • When they encounter something unfamiliar, he encourages them to examine it.
  • When they face a problem, they work toward a solution.
  • When they make mistakes, there are consequences.
  • And when something goes well, the family gives thanks.

That last part is important. Wyss was a minister. He made sure to give God the glory and praise for his provision.

The book isn’t simply about survival.

It’s about how a family should live.

Wyss’s original work had a strongly didactic and religious purpose. The story emphasizes work, cooperation, self-reliance, moral responsibility, gratitude, and faith. The Robinsons aren’t simply trying to conquer the island. They are learning how to live responsibly within God’s creation. That makes the story much more than an adventure. It becomes an opportunity to talk about character.

When Books Get It Wrong—and Still Get It Right

This brings me to something I believe strongly about children’s books.

A book doesn’t have to be a textbook to teach.

Sometimes a fictional story can teach us how to think about a subject better than a textbook can. A textbook can tell a child that a particular animal lives in a particular part of the world. A story can make a child wonder why. A textbook can explain how a pulley works. A story can make a child want to build one. A textbook can describe an ecosystem. A story can make a child stop and ask, “Wait a minute. Could all those animals really live together?”

That’s where learning begins.

The book doesn’t have to provide every answer.

Sometimes its greatest value is that it gives us a question worth answering.

When we read The Swiss Family Robinson together, we can stop occasionally and say:

“I’m not sure that’s possible. Let’s find out.”

That simple sentence can change the way a child reads. Reading becomes investigation. Curiosity becomes research. A story becomes a science experiment. A fictional island becomes a geography lesson. A construction project becomes an engineering problem. And a conversation between a father and his sons becomes an opportunity to talk about faith, responsibility, courage, and character.

The book can serve as the beginning of the lesson rather than its end.

Stories Give Us Something to Talk About

This is one of the reasons I believe so strongly in reading with children. The most valuable part of a book may not be the last page. It may be the conversation that happens after you close the book.

  • “What did you think?”
  • “Would you have done that?”
  • “Was that a good decision?”
  • “Why do you think he did that?”
  • “Do you think that would really work?”
  • “What does the Bible say about that?”

Those questions turn reading into something more than entertainment. They turn it into a shared experience. And that is something children need.

  • They need opportunities to wonder.
  • They need opportunities to question.
  • They need opportunities to discover that they don’t have to accept every claim simply because they read it in a book.
  • They also need adults who are willing to sit beside them and say: “Let’s find out.”

From Swiss Family Robinson to Redeeming Rhubarb

This idea is also one of the reasons I wrote Redeeming Rhubarb.

My book is very different from The Swiss Family Robinson, but their underlying purposes are similar.

I believe stories can give families something to talk about.

The Swiss Family Robinson can lead to conversations about nature, science, geography, engineering, responsibility, work, faith, and family cooperation.

Redeeming Rhubarb can lead to conversations about prejudice, fear, forgiveness, kindness, and the choices we make when we encounter people who are different from us.

Neither book is meant to replace a textbook. Neither book is meant to replace Scripture. Instead, a story can open a door.

  • It can make a child curious.
  • It can allow a parent to ask a question.
  • It can bring an abstract idea to life in a character we have come to know.
  • And sometimes that makes a difficult subject easier to discuss.

That’s what I hope Redeeming Rhubarb does for families.

  • Not simply entertain children.
  • Not simply teach them a lesson.
  • But give parents and children something worth talking about.

Don’t Just Give a Child a Book

Maybe that’s the real lesson I take from The Swiss Family Robinson.

Don’t just give a child a book.

Read it with them.

  • Ask questions.
  • Look things up.
  • Challenge assumptions.
  • Try things.
  • Let them wonder.

Let children discover that sometimes the book gets something wrong—and that discovering the mistake can be just as educational as getting the answer right.

And when the story raises questions about character, responsibility, relationships, or faith, don’t rush past those questions either.

  • Stop.
  • Talk.
  • Listen.

Connect the story to the real world. And, when appropriate, connect it to God’s Word. Because a good book doesn’t have to contain everything a child needs to learn. Sometimes it only needs to give them the desire to learn more.

A story doesn’t have to be perfect to be valuable.

The island in The Swiss Family Robinson may be impossible. The adventures may stretch credibility. Engineering may occasionally make us shake our heads. But the questions it can inspire are very real.

And sometimes the best education begins with a child looking up from a book and asking:

“Could they really do that?”

The answer might be no.

But the learning that follows could be very real indeed.

Sources & Further Reading

The Science and History Behind The Swiss Family Robinson

Harvard Gazette — “The Swiss Family Robinson”


Harvard evolutionary biologist Hopi Hoekstra discusses the book’s enduring appeal while pointing out its biological problem: the island’s collection of animals—including flamingos, kangaroos, and buffalo—could not occur together naturally, either in the East Indies or anywhere else on Earth. She also notes the story’s emphasis on optimism, perseverance, and teamwork.

Read the Harvard Gazette article

University of California — Scholarly dissertation on The Swiss Family Robinson


This scholarly study provides particularly useful historical context. It explains that Wyss shaped the island into an educational environment, deliberately assembling an abundance of exotic plants and animals so that encounters with them could become opportunities for instruction. It also discusses Captain Frederick Marryat’s criticism of the book’s liberties with natural history.

Read the University of California study (PDF)

David Blamires — “The Swiss Family Robinson,” in Telling Tales: The Impact of Germany on English Children’s Books 1780–1918


Literary scholar David Blamires examines the book’s place in children’s literature and describes its appeal as a combination of adventure, danger, and discovery with paternal instruction in botany, zoology, and geography. He also describes the Robinson family’s island as an educational rather than geographically realistic setting.

Read the chapter through JSTOR

Cambridge University Press — Children’s Books in English


This scholarly reference provides historical context for the Robinsonade adventure tradition and notes that Captain Frederick Marryat was irritated by Johann David Wyss’s inaccuracies in natural history, geography, and seamanship. Marryat subsequently wrote Masterman Ready (1841).

Read the Cambridge University Press excerpt (PDF)

Encyclopedia of Adventure Fiction


This reference work places Swiss Family Robinson within the adventure-fiction tradition and provides useful examples of the extraordinary variety of animals and other elements found in the story. It is helpful for seeing just how far Wyss’s fictional island departs from a realistic ecosystem.

Read the Encyclopedia of Adventure Fiction (PDF)

Journal of Biogeography — Island Biogeography


For readers interested in the science behind the problem, this scientific literature explains how isolation, dispersal, colonization, competition, and extinction shape the plants and animals found on islands. It provides useful background for understanding why an isolated tropical island could not simply contain animals from widely separated parts of the world.

Read the Journal of Biogeography article

A Reader’s Perspective

iNaturalist Forum — “Does your nature knowledge spoil fiction?”
This discussion offers a more informal, reader-oriented look at the biological problems in The Swiss Family Robinson. Participants point out the story’s geographically improbable mixture of plants and animals. While this is not an authoritative scientific source, it provides an interesting example of how modern readers recognize the same tension between storytelling and natural history.

Read the iNaturalist discussion

Truth, Fiction, and Storytelling

Barbara Kingsolver — Author’s Website
Kingsolver discusses the relationship between factual accuracy and invention in fiction, including how writers use real places while exercising creative freedom. Her discussion provides useful context for thinking about the larger question of how much factual accuracy we should expect from a fictional story.

Read Barbara Kingsolver’s discussion of fact and fiction

The Original Story

Project Gutenberg — The Swiss Family Robinson
For readers who want to explore the story itself, Project Gutenberg provides a freely accessible version of the text. Reading the original makes it possible to see firsthand how frequently the family’s adventures become opportunities for the father to explain nature, science, practical skills, and other subjects to his sons.

Read The Swiss Family Robinson at Project Gutenberg

What Mr. Rogers Taught Us About Raising Good Neighbors

Illustrated autumn neighborhood with neighbors, homes, trees, and a dog

August 31, 2001, was a significant day in children’s television and a sad one in many ways. It was the final time a new episode of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood aired.

For more than thirty years, Fred Rogers invited children into his neighborhood. He changed his shoes, put on his cardigan, fed his fish, talked with children about things that mattered, and then took us to the Neighborhood of Make-Believe.

  • He talked about feelings.
  • He talked about friendship.
  • He talked about being different.
  • He talked about disappointment, fear, kindness, responsibility, and forgiveness.

He did something that seems almost strange today: He slowed down. Far different from much entertainment aimed at kids, there was no constant stream of stimulation, no need to make everything louder, faster, or more exciting. Instead, he talked quietly to children. And he treated them as though what they thought and felt mattered.

I’ve been thinking about Fred Rogers because so much of what he believed about children connects with what I’ve been writing about in these Family Values articles—especially the importance of reading and using stories to teach children how to live.

I don’t think Fred Rogers and I would have agreed on everything.

But I think we would have agreed on something important:

Children are worth our time and attention.

Mr. Rogers Took Children Seriously

Fred Rogers wasn’t originally a television celebrity.

After graduating from college in 1951, he went into television (not the military, as some falsely claimed). But he eventually returned to Pittsburgh, where he became involved with WQED and children’s programming. While working in children’s television, he also studied child development and worked closely with psychologist Margaret McFarland.

That relationship was important.

Fred didn’t simply decide what children needed based on what he thought would make entertaining television. He wanted his programs to reflect what was actually happening in the lives and development of children.

That tells me something about the way he viewed children. He didn’t see them as little adults. But he also didn’t see them as foolish or naive. He trusted them with heavy topics.

Bigotry

The Wading Pool Scene (1969): During an era when many public swimming pools were still segregated or hostile to Black Americans, Fred Rogers invited François Clemmons—who played Officer Clemmons—to cool his feet in a small plastic pool with him. Rogers then shared his towel to dry Clemmons’ feet, much like Jesus washed his disciples’ feet, delivering a powerful, silent visual message against racial discrimination and exclusion.

Death, Assassination, and Tragedy

  • Assassination Specials: Following national tragedies like the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr. and Robert F. Kennedy in 1968, Rogers created special segments to help children process political violence, loss, and fear.
  • Death and Pet Loss: He addressed the concept of death directly—such as when a goldfish died in the neighborhood—teaching children that it is natural to feel sad and confused by finality.

War and Conflict

And he shall judge among the nations, and shall rebuke many people: and they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruninghooks: nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more.

Divorce and Family Changes

  • Divorce: Rogers tackled the emotional impact of parents separating. He assured young viewers that even when adults go through difficult changes and painful emotions, a child is never the cause of a divorce and remains deeply loved.
  • Episodes 1476–1480 — “Divorce” (February 16–20, 1981)
  • This is another five-episode series: Prince Tuesday worries that his parents are going to divorce and even believes the conflict is his fault. The episodes repeatedly reinforce that adult problems are not the child’s fault and give children opportunities to express their fears and feelings.

Disability Rights

Inclusion and Accessibility: Rogers featured guests with disabilities, such as Jeff Erlanger, a young boy using an electric wheelchair. Rogers spoke to him with complete equality and dignity, normalizing disabilities and answering children’s curious questions without pity or stigma.

Difficult Subjects Need to Be Discussed

One of the things I admire most about Fred Rogers is that he didn’t believe children needed to be protected from every difficult subject. He believed they needed caring adults who could help them understand those subjects. He was one of those adults and encouraged others to be.

Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood addressed difficult subjects such as racism, death, divorce, disability, fear, conflict, and other subjects that adults sometimes hesitate to discuss with children. Rogers didn’t simply tell children what to think. He gave them a safe place to encounter difficult ideas, ask questions, express their feelings, and begin making sense of the world around them. He demonstrated these traits through his actions and through stories in The Neighborhood of Make-Believe.

My Own Writing

That is something I have tried to do in my own writing.

My middle-grade novel, Redeeming Rhubarb, also deals with a difficult subject: prejudice and racism. The story was inspired by the real 2013 Boulder, Colorado floods, but the adventure becomes a way for young readers to explore what happens when fear and assumptions cause us to judge people we don’t really know.

The goal isn’t to give children a lecture about prejudice. It’s to give them a story they can experience.

A child can watch characters make choices, see the consequences of those choices, and then talk about what happened. Why did that character act that way? Was it right? What caused the fear? How did the other person feel? What could have been done differently? And, as Christian families, what does Scripture teach us about how we should treat other people?

That approach is very important to me.

Conversations

Like Fred Rogers, I believe difficult subjects can become opportunities for meaningful conversations when children have a trusted adult beside them.

That’s one reason I believe books matter.

A good story doesn’t have to answer every question for a child. Sometimes it simply needs to open the door to a conversation that might not have happened otherwise.

That’s what I hope Redeeming Rhubarb does.

And that’s one of the lessons I take from Mr. Rogers: we don’t help children by pretending difficult things don’t exist. We help them by walking with them as they learn how to face those things—with truth, compassion, courage, and love.

Understanding Children

Fred Rodgers understood that children have real fears, real questions, real disappointments, and real emotions.

Sometimes adults are tempted to dismiss those things.

  • “You’re okay.”
  • “Don’t worry about it.”
  • “It’s not a big deal.”

But to a child, it may be a very big deal. Mr. Rogers was willing to talk about those things. And perhaps that is one reason children trusted him. He didn’t preach. He spoke gently and, more often than not, demonstrated his lesson through a “make-believe” story.

Stories Give Children a Safe Place to Learn

His philosophy has a strong connection to reading. I’ve written before about why I believe books are such an important tool for teaching children values. It’s important to read aloud to kids. We can choose books that teach life lessons. We can teach biblical values through literature.

A child may resist a lecture about honesty, but put a character in a story who lies, and suddenly the child can watch what happens.

  • A character makes a selfish decision.
  • Another character forgives.
  • Someone faces a difficult choice.
  • Someone else shows courage.

The child gets to see the consequences without having to experience every consequence personally.That’s one of the great gifts of literature.

Stories give children a safe place to wrestle with difficult ideas.

Fred Rogers understood something similar.

His television program used stories, puppets, music, and the Neighborhood of Make-Believe to help children think about the issues they were facing in real life. His conversations with child-development expert Margaret McFarland helped him make those stories relevant to children’s actual concerns.

The medium was different.

He used television.

I’m talking about books.

But the principle is remarkably similar.

A story can open a door that a lecture can’t.

Fred Rogers Loved Books

There’s another connection that I find especially interesting.

Fred Rogers himself developed a love of reading as a child because of his childhood librarian, whom he called “Aunt” Sara McComb. According to the Fred Rogers Institute, Fred frequently mentioned her when talking about books and reading. She shared her love of books with children at the library, and Fred learned from that experience. There’s something beautiful about that.

One person who loved books helped a child develop a love for reading. That child eventually became the man millions of children trusted. And decades later, we’re still talking about him. It reminds me that we don’t always know what our influence will become.

  • Maybe you’re the parent reading a bedtime story tonight.
  • Maybe you’re the grandparent taking a child to the library.
  • Maybe you’re the teacher recommending a book.
  • Maybe you’re the librarian who remembers a child’s name.

It may seem like a small thing.

But it may not be small to the child.

An anonymous usher stopped a teenage Billy Graham from walking away from a packed 1934 tent revival in Charlotte, North Carolina. He found seats for Billy and his friend. The revival led Billy Graham to make Jesus his savior. Billy Graham impacted millions of lives and led many of those into a relationship with Jesus. The usher did a small thing, but it had a big impact, a huge ripple effect. Aunt Sara did one small thing that impacted millions of children through Fred Rogers.

Reading Is About More Than Reading

I’ve said this before, but it is worth repeating.

The goal isn’t simply to get through more books. The goal is to let good books get into our children.

When our children were younger, we would snuggle together and read. One of my favorite family memories is reading Charlotte’s Web together, a chapter at a time.

We weren’t simply completing a book. We were sharing an experience. That’s an important distinction.

Reading aloud develops literacy, vocabulary, comprehension, and imagination. But something else happens when a parent sits beside a child and reads.

We build a relationship.

We’re saying:

  • You matter to me.
  • What you’re interested in matters to me.
  • I want to spend time with you.

Fred Rogers understood the importance of that kind of relationship.

His television program wasn’t designed merely to give children information. He wanted children to feel that they were being welcomed by someone who cared about them.

The famous question in his theme song wasn’t simply an invitation to watch television.

It was an invitation into relationship.

Won’t you be my neighbor?

What Happens When We Read Together?

One of my favorite things about reading with children is the conversation that follows. Sometimes the conversation isn’t even about the book.

  • A character makes a choice.
    • “What do you think about that?”
  • A character hurts someone.
    • “Why do you think she did that?”
  • Someone gets treated unfairly.
    • “Was that right?”
  • Someone shows courage.
    • “Would you have been brave enough to do that?”
  • And sometimes we can go even deeper.
    • “What does the Bible say about that?”

Now the book has become a bridge.We’re no longer simply talking about a fictional character. We’re talking about life.

I’ve written about this before because I don’t want my children simply to memorize a list of rules.

  • I want them to learn how to think.
  • I want them to recognize good and evil.
  • I want them to understand consequences.
  • I want them to develop empathy.
  • I want them to ask questions.
  • And ultimately, I want them to compare what they encounter in the world with God’s Word.

A good book can help us do that.

The Final Neighborhood

There’s something almost fitting about what happened in the final episode of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood.

The final week was called “Celebrate the Arts.”

In the Neighborhood of Make-Believe, Lady Elaine had appointed herself the judge of everyone’s artwork. But by the end, instead of judging the other characters, she created a collage celebrating them.

The final episode aired on August 31, 2001.

Think about that.

A program that spent decades teaching children about feelings, relationships, and how we treat one another ended with a story about moving from judgment toward appreciation. That seems remarkably appropriate.

Fred Rogers understood that how we feel about ourselves can affect how we treat other people. And isn’t that something our children still need to learn?

  • A child who feels loved can learn to love.
  • A child who experiences forgiveness can learn to forgive.
  • A child who is listened to can learn to listen.
  • A child who is treated with patience can learn patience.

A child who spends years hearing good stories about courage, kindness, sacrifice, friendship, and forgiveness has a vocabulary for understanding those things when they encounter them in real life.

We Can’t Always Be There

There comes a point when our children leave the house.

  • We can’t follow them everywhere.
  • We can’t hear every conversation.
  • We can’t see every decision.
  • We can’t answer every question.

That’s one reason I believe so strongly in giving children good books. A good story can stay with them. Years after we’ve finished reading a book, a character may come back to them.

  • They may remember what happened to Wilbur.
  • They may remember Charlotte’s sacrifice.
  • They may remember Heidi’s love for her grandfather.
  • They may remember a character who showed courage when courage was difficult.

And perhaps, at some point, they’ll face their own difficult decision and remember that story. That’s when the book has become something more than a book. It has become part of them.

What Kind of Neighbors Are We Raising?

Fred Rogers wanted children to understand that they were valuable and that other people mattered.

I want the same thing for my children, but I want to go one step further.

  • I want them to understand why people matter.
  • I want them to understand that every person is created by God.
  • I want them to understand that Jesus commanded us to love our neighbors.
  • I want them to understand that loving someone doesn’t mean approving of everything that person does.
  • I want them to understand forgiveness without confusing forgiveness with pretending that wrong doesn’t matter.
  • I want them to understand that courage sometimes means standing up for what is right.
  • I want them to understand that compassion means looking beyond the surface and trying to understand another person’s story.

Those lessons don’t have to come only through lectures. They can come through conversations. They can come through Scripture. And they can come through stories.

Start With One Book

You don’t need a huge library or a complicated curriculum. You don’t need to spend hours preparing a lesson. Start with one book. Sit beside your child.

  • Read.
  • Listen.
  • Talk.
  • Ask questions.
  • And when the story presents an opportunity, take it.
    • “What would you have done?”
    • “Why do you think he did that?”
    • “Was that a good choice?”
    • “How did that make the other person feel?”
    • “What does the Bible say about this?”
    • Then listen to the answer.
  • Don’t immediately correct.
  • Don’t turn every conversation into a sermon.

Sometimes our children need us to listen more than they need us to talk.

Fred Rogers understood the power of listening, slowing down, and taking children seriously.

I think we could use a little more of that today.

One Child. One Book. One Conversation.

The last original episode of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood aired twenty-five years ago.

Fred Rogers died in 2003, but the neighborhood he created hasn’t really disappeared. His impact hasn’t left us.

  • Every time we teach a child to be kind, we extend it.
  • Every time we listen to a child’s question, we extend it.
  • Every time we help a child understand someone else’s feelings, we extend it.
  • And every time we sit down with a child and open a good book, we have another opportunity to build that kind of neighborhood in our own home.

We don’t have to change the world all at once.

We can start much smaller.

  • One child.
  • One book.
  • One conversation.

Maybe that’s how we raise better neighbors.

And maybe, years from now, our children will remember those quiet moments—not because we gave them another lesson, but because we gave them something better.

  • We gave them our time.
  • We gave them our attention.
  • We gave them stories.

And through those stories, we helped them discover what it means to love God, love their neighbor, and live a life of character.

That’s a legacy worth leaving behind.

References

The following sources were consulted for the information about Fred Rogers and Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood discussed in this article.

  • Fred Rogers Institute — About Fred Rogers
    A comprehensive biography covering Fred Rogers’ childhood, education, family, early television career, study of child development, work with psychologist Margaret McFarland, and his philosophy of serving children and families.
    About Fred Rogers — Fred Rogers Institute
  • Fred Rogers Productions — Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood
    Information about the purpose of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, its approach to children, and its learning goals, including empathy, imagination, respect, self-esteem, emotional regulation, and social skills.
    Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood — Fred Rogers Productions
  • Fred Rogers Institute — Fred Rogers Archive
    An Extensive archive preserves more than 22,000 items from Fred Rogers’ life and work, including writings, photographs, scripts, and other materials that document his ideas about childhood, families, education, and reading.
    Fred Rogers Institute Archive
  • Fred Rogers Institute — The Simple Spiral of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood
    Documents the first episode, which aired February 19, 1968, and the final original episode, #1765, Mister Rogers Celebrates the Arts, which aired August 31, 2001. It also discusses the closing moments of both episodes and the continuity of Rogers’ message throughout the series.
    The Simple Spiral of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood
  • The Neighborhood Archive — Episode 1765
    Detailed information about the final original episode, Mister Rogers Celebrates the Arts, including its August 31, 2001 air date and the stories and activities featured in the episode.
    Episode 1765 — The Neighborhood Archive
  • The Washington Post — “For Mister Rogers, a Final Day in the Neighborhood”
    Contemporary reporting published September 1, 2001, describing the final new episode and Fred Rogers’ decision to end the series without a traditional television farewell.
    For Mister Rogers, a Final Day in the Neighborhood — The Washington Post

Learn more about Redeeming Rhubarb: Redeeming Rhubarb — Reading With Your Kids

Explore Bob Richley’s books and resources: Bob Richley — Christ-Centered Books for Families.

How to Use Poetry in Home Education: A Complete Guide

Worn Selected Poems beside a pen and eyeglasses

Benefits of Using Poetry in Home Education

Poetry can be a wonderful addition to a home education because it gives children something that many other forms of writing do not: freedom to play with language, ideas, sounds, emotions, and imagination.

When children write prose, they are usually expected to communicate their thoughts in complete sentences and organized paragraphs. Poetry can loosen those boundaries. A poem might rhyme, repeat words, break grammatical conventions, use unusual imagery, or even invent words. Children can experiment with language simply to see what happens.

That freedom can make poetry less intimidating and more enjoyable while developing important skills in reading, writing, vocabulary, creativity, observation, and communication.

I have experienced this freedom in my own poetry. Some of my poems are highly structured, while others are much more conversational. Some use rhyme extensively, while others depend more on imagery and ideas. This variety is one of the things that makes poetry so valuable for education.

Experiment With Language

One of the simplest benefits of poetry is that it allows children to play with words.

Rhymes, rhythms, repetition, alliteration, unusual word combinations, and even nonsense words can become part of the creative process. Children begin to notice not only what words mean but also how words sound together.

A child might start with something as simple as:

The cat sat next to the rat.
How fun is that?

There isn’t much literary sophistication in those two lines—and that’s precisely the point. A young child has discovered that cat, sat, and rat sound alike and can be combined to create something amusing.

This poem I wrote many, many years ago, based on a true story. It’s a fun a poem that younger readers should enjoy

Peepy, Poopoo, Potty

The adult was the one who started
With a joke that included a person who farted
Which started the kids laughing before the punch line.

Then they all took their turn on stage
From oldest to the youngest of age
Telling jokes about farts, poops and pots.

The children laughed and giggled loudly
As each had a turn at being a star proudly
Simply telling their jokes and being silly tots.

When the three year old's turn came
He did not pause to think but merely exclaimed
'Peepy, Poopoo, Potty!'

And got the biggest laugh of all.

As children become more comfortable with language, they can begin experimenting with more complicated combinations.

For example, in my fantasy poetry, I created names and words that fit the poem’s imaginary world. In The Battle of Elmond, I use names such as Restiny and connect the name to the word destiny. The poem tells how the Pools of King Elmond eventually became the Pools of Restiny after men came seeking their own destiny.

This kind of wordplay can become an excellent homeschool activity. Ask your child:

  • Can you invent a character with a name that has a hidden meaning?
  • Can you create three words that rhyme with the character’s name?
  • Can you make up a word and explain what it means?
  • Can you write four lines in which every line ends with a rhyming word?
  • Can you tell a story using words that begin with the same sound?

Children are learning about phonics, vocabulary, spelling, rhythm, and sentence construction—but they are also having fun.

Poetry turns language into something children can experiment with rather than memorize.

Discover Rhythm and Rhyme

Poetry also teaches children to hear the rhythm of language.

Consider the difference between ordinary prose and a rhyming poem. In prose, we generally concentrate on communicating the idea. In poetry, we become much more aware of the sounds and patterns of the words.

For example, I often use rhyme in my poems. In my poem Senses of the Soul, I have this stanza.

Warm days fill us with delight
As dawn breaks into the light.
Colorful flowers bloom and grow
As the cool breezes blow.

The rhyme isn’t merely decoration. It gives the poem a pattern that helps the reader anticipate what comes next.

Children can discover this themselves by experimenting with different endings:

The dog ran down the street.
He thought the world was pretty neat.

Then challenge them to change the rhythm:

The little dog went running down the street,
His tiny paws went pitter-patter feet.

They can hear that poetry isn’t simply about finding words that rhyme. It is also about how the words move when we read them aloud.

Reading poetry aloud is therefore particularly valuable in homeschool education. Encourage children to clap the rhythm, emphasize certain words, experiment with pauses, and read the same poem in different ways.

Create Sensory Imagery

Poetry gives children an opportunity to turn an idea into a picture.

Instead of simply saying:

The waterfall was beautiful.

a poet might write about crystal water falling into a quiet pool.

In The Great War Between Men and Elves, I describe an imaginary landscape using colors, architecture, water, flowers, and movement:

Scarlet and violet flowers
Accenting gold and white towers,
Encircled by pools of green and blue,

The purpose is not simply to tell the reader that the setting is beautiful. The descriptive language encourages the reader to see the scene in their imagination.

This is an excellent exercise for children.

Take an ordinary object—a rock, a tree, a cup of water, a snow-covered window—and ask the child to describe it without naming it.

  • What does it look like?
  • What color is it?
  • What does it feel like?
  • Is it warm or cold?
  • Does it make a sound?
  • Does it have a smell?
  • What does it remind you of?

Then turn those observations into a poem.

This teaches children to pay attention to the world around them. They begin to discover that ordinary things can become extraordinary when we look closely enough.

One of my poems, Importance, grew out of precisely this kind of observation. My daughter stops to examine things that I might otherwise hurry past—such as an ordinary stone or a piece of trash. What looks insignificant to an adult can become fascinating to a child.

Poetry can help children recover that sense of wonder.

There Is No Single Right Answer

Poetry is flexible and personal.

A child doesn’t have to produce a poem that looks exactly like the teacher’s example. Two children can be given the same subject and produce completely different poems—and both can be successful.

  • One child might write four rhyming lines.
  • Another might write free verse.
  • Another might write a humorous poem.
  • Another might write a serious poem about how the subject makes them feel.

That freedom can be especially valuable for children who become frustrated when every writing assignment seems to have one “correct” answer. I’m a mathematician, but my daughters complain about math. One mistake and the whole problem is wrong. It is devastating. Poetry doesn’t have the problem. Poetry can be free from rules, unstructured, and creative.

Of course, poetry can have rules. There are sonnets, haiku, limericks, ballads, and many other poetic forms with specific structures. Learning those forms can be educational in itself.

But structure doesn’t eliminate creativity.

Even Shakespearean sonnets follow recognizable rules while allowing tremendous variation in vocabulary, imagery, ideas, and emotional expression.

In writing poetry, children can therefore experience both structure and freedom.

They can learn the rules of a particular poetic form and then discover how creatively they can work within those rules.

Or they can put the rules aside and write.

Both experiences have educational value.

Emotional Freedom

Writing Poetry

Poetry can also give children a safe way to explore emotions. I often express my feelings with poetry. In trying to process my dad having cancer for the second time, I wrote this poem:

Out of the Depths

Sometimes situations make no earthly sense,
The pain is sharp and the darkness dense.
We climb deeper into our hole of despair
And can barely grasp for any air.

Looking at the wind and the waves, we sink
Our hope, faith, and trust are on the brink
Of slipping into the depths of the stormy sea.
In desperation, we cry to be set free.

It is then that Hope reaches down His hand,
Encouraging us to take our final stand.
Looking up into Love's tender eyes,
We find the strength and courage to rise.

This poem uses the imagery of darkness, storms, sinking, and rising to express despair and hope. The emotions aren’t presented simply as a list of statements. They are communicated through images:

Sometimes situations make no earthly sense,
The pain is sharp and the darkness dense.

The poem eventually moves from desperation toward hope and courage.

It is then that Hope reaches down His hand,
Encouraging us to take our final stand.

Another example is My Dad, which expresses love, gratitude, memories, and admiration through a series of descriptions of a father who was present, loving, firm, gentle, and influential.

These poems illustrate an important educational principle: poetry allows us to express what we sometimes cannot easily explain.

Children sometimes have difficulty explaining complicated feelings in ordinary conversation. A poem gives them another way to communicate.

They can write about happiness, sadness, anger, fear, disappointment, friendship, loneliness, hope, love, or confusion without having to explain everything directly.

Reading Poetry

Reading poetry offers another dimension of emotional education. A child may read a poem and understand it differently from another child—or differently from the poet who wrote it. As a poet, I’ve experienced how people understand my poems. I’ve read their comments and seen that they interpret the poem through their own paradigm.

Every reader brings experiences, memories, beliefs, and emotions to what they read.

This doesn’t mean every interpretation is equally supported by a poem’s words. But it does mean that poetry can open the door to meaningful conversations:

  • “What do you think the poet is feeling?”
  • “What makes you think that?”
  • “Have you ever felt that way?”
  • “What picture came into your mind when you read this?”
  • “Would you have described the feeling differently?”

These questions encourage children to think beyond simply identifying the “correct answer.” They learn to support their interpretations with evidence from the poem while also recognizing that another reader may see something they missed.

Poetry Encourages Observation, Reflection, and Wonder

One of poetry’s greatest gifts to a homeschool education is teaching children to slow down and notice things.

Poetry asks us to pay attention to a word, a sound, an image, a feeling, or a moment.

That can be especially valuable in a culture where distractions constantly surround children.

In Importance, I contrast the hurried perspective of an adult with the slower, more observant perspective of a child. My daughter sees wonder in ordinary things while I am focused on getting somewhere. The poem ultimately asks whether adults sometimes miss the beauty around us because we are too busy.

That makes poetry more than a language exercise.

It can become an exercise in attention.

A child who learns to notice the color of the sunset, the sound of rain against a window, the shape of a cloud, the texture of tree bark, or the expression on someone’s face is developing the raw material of poetry—and also developing the habits of a thoughtful observer.

Poetry teaches children to look at the familiar and ask:

  • What am I missing?
  • What else could this mean?
  • How does this make me feel?
  • How can I describe it in a way someone else can experience?

Those are valuable questions far beyond the poetry lesson.

Choosing the Right Poetry for Different Ages

One of the advantages of poetry is that there is a form for almost every age and reading level. Parents don’t have to begin with difficult, serious poetry. In fact, some of the best introductions to poetry are playful, funny, rhythmic, and even a little silly.

As children grow, their exposure to poetry can grow with them. The goal isn’t necessarily to move from “easy” poetry to “hard” poetry, but to introduce children to increasingly varied ways of using language, imagery, structure, ideas, and emotion.

Young Children: Rhyme, Rhythm, Humor, and Imagination

For younger children, poems with rhyme, repetition, humor, animals, nature, nonsense words, and strong rhythms are often a natural place to begin. The goal at this age is to help children enjoy the sound and playfulness of language.

Fun Poetry

Dr. Seuss is an excellent example. His books demonstrate how much fun children can have with rhyme, rhythm, repetition, invented words, and unusual sound combinations. His poems don’t simply tell children what words mean—they let children experience what words can do.

Shel Silverstein is another wonderful choice. Poems such as Ickle Me, Pickle Me, Tickle Me Too invite children into a world where the ordinary rules of reality can be set aside. The poem’s playful rhyme, rhythm, repetition, and fantastic imagery demonstrate that poetry doesn’t always have to make literal sense to be enjoyable.

Edward Lear provides another excellent introduction through nonsense poetry. His poems demonstrate that language can be funny and imaginative even when the situations described are impossible.

This kind of poetry gives children permission to laugh, imagine, and experiment.

Other good choices for younger children include poems by A. A. Milne and Jack Prelutsky. Edward Lear’s nonsense poetry, in particular, shows children that words can be enjoyable even when they describe things that could never really happen.

At this stage, don’t worry too much about explaining every poetic device. Let children hear the rhythm, repeat favorite lines, laugh at the humor, and notice the sounds.

Biblical Poetry

But children can also be introduced to biblical poetry at a young age.

Psalm 23 in the King James Version is particularly accessible because it uses familiar images: sheep, green pastures, still waters, paths, a valley, a table, and an overflowing cup.

The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

Although A young child may not understand every theological or poetic detail, they can understand the pictures. They can imagine green grass, quiet water, a shepherd, and sheep.

Parents can ask simple questions:

  • What pictures do you see in this Psalm?
  • What does a shepherd do for sheep?
  • What do you think “still waters” means?
  • Which image do you like best?
  • Can you draw the scene described in the Psalm?

Psalm 23 also introduces children to an important aspect of poetry: it can communicate ideas through pictures.

The Psalm doesn’t simply say, “God takes care of me.” It gives the reader a picture of a shepherd caring for his sheep.

That is poetry.

Discussion

You can ask simple questions:

  • What part did you like best?
  • What words rhymed?
  • Can you make up a silly word?
  • Can you write a poem about a ridiculous animal?
  • Can you make up a character who lives somewhere impossible?

The child is already learning about language and poetry—even when they think they are simply having fun.

Elementary-Age Children: Imagery, Nature, Storytelling, and Figurative Language

As children become more confident readers and writers, they can begin exploring sensory imagery, figurative language, nature poetry, storytelling, and simple poetic forms.

Robert Frost is particularly useful at this age because his poetry often begins with things children can understand—a road, a snowy evening, a wall, a tree, or a walk through the woods—and uses those familiar subjects to explore deeper ideas.

For example, Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening offers opportunities to discuss the sights and sounds of a winter landscape while also reflecting on the speaker’s thoughts and responsibilities.

Frost can help children see that a poem can be about something ordinary on the surface while suggesting something much deeper beneath the surface.

Children can also explore Emily Dickinson, whose short poems often use nature and everyday observations to explore larger ideas. Her poems can be especially useful for teaching children that a poem need not be long to say something significant.

At this stage, children can begin identifying:

  • Similes
  • Metaphors
  • Personification
  • Repetition
  • Alliteration
  • Rhyme
  • Rhythm
  • Sensory imagery

They can then try these techniques themselves.

For example, after reading a poem about winter, ask the child to describe snow without using the word snow. What does it look like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like? What could it be compared to?

This turns literary analysis into a creative exercise.

Older Elementary and Middle School: Form, Voice, Humor, and Meaning

As children grow, introduce them to poets who demonstrate a wider range of poetic forms and subjects.

Shel Silverstein remains valuable even for older children because his poems often contain surface-level humor while raising interesting questions beneath the surface. A funny poem can still encourage children to think about responsibility, consequences, imagination, relationships, and human behavior.

Robert Frost can be revisited at this age as students become better able to recognize symbolism and multiple meanings.

Students can also explore poets such as Langston Hughes, Walt Whitman, Christina Rossetti, William Blake, and Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.

This is a good age to introduce more formal poetry.

Children can experiment with:

  • Haiku
  • Limericks
  • Ballads
  • Narrative poems
  • Acrostics
  • Sonnets
  • Free verse

They can also begin comparing poets.

  • How does Frost describe nature compared with Dickinson?
  • How does Silverstein use humor differently from Dr. Seuss?
  • How does a poem with strict rhyme and meter feel different from free verse?

These comparisons help children understand that poetry isn’t one particular style. Poetry is a broad form of expression with many voices and possibilities.

Teenagers: Deeper Themes, Symbolism, History, and the Human Experience

Teenagers can begin exploring poetry that explores more complex themes, including identity, relationships, morality, suffering, faith, responsibility, death, hope, injustice, and the human experience.

This is an excellent time to introduce William Shakespeare, particularly his sonnets. Shakespeare provides an opportunity to study poetic structure while also exploring timeless subjects such as love, beauty, aging, jealousy, time, mortality, and human nature.

Students can learn that a sonnet has a recognizable structure and rhyme scheme without every sonnet expressing the same idea or emotion.

Robert Frost can also be revisited at this level. Poems that initially seem like simple descriptions of nature can become opportunities to discuss symbolism, choices, responsibility, isolation, and the passage of time.

Teenagers can also explore poets such as:

  • William Shakespeare — sonnets, love, mortality, time, human nature
  • Robert Frost — nature, choices, responsibility, symbolism
  • Emily Dickinson — mortality, nature, faith, isolation, perception
  • Langston Hughes — identity, dreams, race, hope, and American life
  • Walt Whitman — individuality, nature, humanity, and American identity
  • Edgar Allan Poe — beauty, grief, death, atmosphere, and the darker side of human experience
  • William Blake — innocence, experience, morality, imagination, and spirituality
  • Christina Rossetti — faith, love, sacrifice, temptation, and mortality
  • T. S. Eliot — modern life, spirituality, uncertainty, and meaning
  • Rudyard Kipling — character, responsibility, courage, and perseverance

At this age, poetry can become a bridge between literature and philosophy.

Instead of simply asking, “What poetic devices did the author use?”, parents can ask:

  • “What is this poet saying about life?”
  • “Do you agree?”
  • “What evidence in the poem supports that interpretation?”
  • “Has the meaning changed for you after reading it a second time?”
  • “How might someone with a different life experience interpret this poem?”

These questions encourage teenagers to move from identifying literary techniques to thinking critically about ideas.

Don’t Be Afraid to Read the Same Poet More Than Once

Parents don’t have to abandon children’s poets just because children get older.

A child may laugh at a Shel Silverstein poem when they are eight and discover something entirely different in the same poem when they are thirteen.

The same is true of Robert Frost, Shakespeare, and many other poets.

One of the wonderful things about poetry is that we change as readers.

A poem we barely understand at ten may become meaningful at fifteen. A poem we enjoyed simply because it rhymed when we were young may reveal a deeper idea when we encounter it again years later.

That is one reason poetry is worth keeping in a child’s education over the years—not as a subject that children eventually “graduate” from, but as a form of literature they can continue to discover.

Sometimes a poem should be enjoyed.

  • Read it aloud.
  • Laugh at it.
  • Talk about the images.
  • Notice the rhyme.
  • Ask what the child thinks it means.
  • Then, when appropriate, dig deeper.

Activities to Incorporate Poetry in Homeschooling

Poetry does not need to be a separate, formal subject. It can easily be woven into other areas of a homeschool education.

1. Nature Poetry

Take a nature walk and have your child collect observations rather than objects.

Ask them to write a poem about what they saw, heard, smelled, or felt.

2. Five-Senses Poetry

Choose an object and describe it using all five senses.

This is a simple way to introduce sensory imagery.

3. Rhyme Challenges

Give your child a word and see how many rhyming words they can find.

Then challenge them to use those words in a poem.

4. Nonsense Poetry

Let children invent words.

What does the word mean?

How is it pronounced?

What words rhyme with it?

Can they write a poem using their invented vocabulary?

5. Poetry from History

After studying a historical event, ask your child to write a poem from the perspective of someone who experienced it.

This combines creative writing with history.

6. Science Poetry

Choose something from a science lesson—a planet, animal, chemical element, cell, weather event, or ecosystem—and turn it into a poem.

This encourages children to process what they have learned rather than merely memorize facts.

7. Rewrite a Poem

Read a poem together and ask your child to rewrite it from another character’s perspective.

How would the story change?

What would that character see or feel?

8. Poetry Journaling

Keep a poetry notebook where children can write whenever inspiration strikes.

Not every entry needs to be polished.

The notebook can be a place for experiments, observations, silly rhymes, serious thoughts, unfinished poems, and ideas for future writing.

Resources and Tools for Educators

Parents don’t need an elaborate curriculum to begin using poetry at home.

A good poetry education can start with a collection of age-appropriate poems, a notebook, something to write with, and a willingness to read together.

My own poems can also provide examples for parents who want to show children different approaches to poetry—from fantasy and storytelling to family memories, nature, faith, and reflections on life.

You can use a poem in several ways:

  • Read it aloud.
    Listen for rhythm, rhyme, and repeated sounds.
  • Talk about it.
    Ask what the child notices and what they think the poem means.
  • Visualize it.
    Ask the child to draw a picture of what they see as they listen.
  • Analyze it.
    For older students, identify metaphors, similes, rhyme schemes, meter, symbolism, and poetic structure.
  • Imitate it.
    Write a new poem using the same structure but a completely different subject.
  • Respond to it.
    Ask the child to write a poem expressing their own response to the original.

The goal isn’t simply to teach children how to identify poetic devices.

The goal is to help them discover that words are tools they can use to think, imagine, create, observe, and communicate.

Poetry permits children to play with those tools.

And that is one of the reasons poetry deserves a place in home education.

An Epic Fantasy Poem of Elves, War, and Destiny

Enchanted forest lake with a glowing chapel among trees and mountains

The Battle of Elmond

Among the chronicles of old 
A tragic elfin tale is told.

How the Pools of King Elmond, 
Which held the mystic healing pond, 
Became in time the Pools of Restiny, 
When men rose up to claim their destiny.

Long before the war of men and elves,
Beyond waves crashing upon rocky selves,
Its swirling waters, calm and grand,
Gave healing at King Elmond's hand.

Passive, peaceful elves of Restore 
Dwelt in peace along the eastern shore,
And shared the pool's slow healing grace 
With man and elf, from every race.

In search of fame and destiny,
From the west came King Restiny, 
Whose men desired that grace for their own, 
And marched to make its power known.

With iron chains, with spear and sword, 
In fearsome hordes his men were poured
Across the land in search of fame, 
To bind the pool unto his name.

The peaceful elves would not take arms 
Against the men who sought their charms; 
They had no wish for war or strife, 
Only to heal, to tend to life.

Their wizards called on spirits old
To hold the line against the men so bold, 
But spells alone could not defend 
Each elf from war's uncaring end.

By blade, and by the mystic spell,
Both men and elves alike, they fell, 
Until the pool of Elmond's hand
Lay drowned in blood upon the land.

The Pools of peaceful King Elmond, 
Which held the mystic healing pond, 
Became the Pools of Restiny — 
Men paid in blood for their "destiny."

Noble souls of both kinds died; 
The pools became where the dead abide...
Until the day when the heir, Altiny, 
Grandson to the conquering King Restiny, 

Would rise to choose a nobler destiny
Whose grace and charm would lead to lenity. 

This is one in a series of fantasy poems

Conflict Resolution: Be Quick to Listen

Family reading books together on a bed in a warmly lit bedroom. Peace instead of conflict

Why Don’t We Listen?

I used to think I was a patient person.

When I was single, I could do what I wanted when I wanted. I was on time without waiting for someone else. When I spent time with kids, it was only for a few hours. Yet others even told me I was patient. They saw that I worked with children, played with them, taught them, and generally got along well with them.

Then I got married, and everything changed and discovered something about myself.

  • I was selfish and impatient, and I wanted my way; therefore, I wanted people to do things when I thought they should.
  • I wanted people to understand what I was saying.
  • I wanted to be heard.

And when they didn’t? I became frustrated. Sometimes I became angry.

I’ve come to realize that one of the roots of my anger is remarkably simple: I want my way.

When I was without a family, I didn’t think I had an anger issue. But when I got married, I found myself upset when we ran late and impatient with my kids and my wife. I could no longer do what I wanted, when I wanted. I felt angry. Why? Because I am selfish. I like what I think and believe is best; after all, I am always right.

I’m still working on this issue. God is making progress, but I am still dealing with anger and selfishness. Allow me to share what I’m learning about why anger is destructive and how God is helping me to choose love instead.

Why Conflict?

Conflict happens often because we don’t listen.

  • We have our own preconceived thoughts, opinions, and paradigms.
  • We all want to be heard and understood, so we advocate for our position.
  • We believe we are right and will argue to prove it.

The results of this self-centered thinking and behavior are devastating. At a minimum, we wound others emotionally. At worst, wars and conflicts break out, killing millions of people.

The Remedy – Be Quick to Listen and  Slow to Speak

Let’s look more practically at how we can overcome our anger. James 1:19-20 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” This is often my prayer for myself. I want to be quick to listen and slow to speak.

By the power of the Holy Spirit, we can listen to others with understanding.

Do you know why we become angry? Because we want our own way. We don’t want to listen to another way.

We need to listen to others and, most importantly, listen to God. It’s not my way, my wife’s way, my kids’ way; it is God’s way that we need. When we disagree, pray. Listen to what God wants.

We are often quick to speak because we want our way and to be heard. That is selfish. We need to seek what others want. Philippians 2:3-4 says: “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others more important than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Listen to what others want. Notice that human anger doesn’t accomplish anything good. Verse 20 says, “because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” This is all the more reason we need to seek God’s will if we want the righteousness God desires.

When Bedtime Isn’t Peaceful

Our bedtime routine includes family devotions with our daughters. This is meant to be a peaceful time where we encounter God through prayer and reading his word. However, we often struggle to meet at the same time. The girls need to get ready for bed, which includes brushing their teeth, washing their faces, getting on pajamas, and getting clothes ready for school the next day.

My wife is a host home provider, which means we have people with intellectual disabilities living in our home, and she has to make sure medication is taken, teeth are brushed, and a host of other little duties. Sometimes I assume my wife is done, or she says she’s ready, but the girls aren’t. When the girls are not ready, she may do another task like prepare lunches for the next morning.

Communication breaks down. We fail to listen. My wife may say she’s preparing lunches, but I don’t hear. I may say, “Let’s meet in the bedroom,” but that’s not understood. We are all rushed and heading in different directions. When we finally assemble, there’s no peace and much misunderstanding. I’ll defend what I did. My wife will defend what she did. My girls will defend their behavior. Conflict arises because we don’t listen; instead, we defend.

What should be peaceful and prayerful turns into a minor conflict, hurt feelings, and stress. Why? Because we fail to listen. Nobody in the room is necessarily trying to cause a problem. We’re simply failing to listen.

This is a simple example, but it gets far worse. I know my wife and kids have been in tears because I didn’t listen and understand. My girls have had conflicts with a friend because there was no listening or understanding.

Wisdom from Proverbs

Proverbs repeatedly warns us about the danger of too many words.

  • Proverbs 17:28 says that even a fool can appear wise if he keeps silent.
  • Proverbs 10:19 similarly warns that when words multiply, sin is not far behind.
  • Proverbs 18:13 says we need to listen before we answer. We need to understand what the other is saying and then respond; otherwise, we may come across as unprepared.

That’s uncomfortable for me because when I am angry, I want to talk, justify myself and be understood. I want to explain, to defend myself, and ensure the other person understands why I’m correct.

But perhaps wisdom sometimes looks like keeping my mouth shut long enough to understand someone else.

Why Do We Become Angry?

I don’t think all anger starts with hatred. Anger is a secondary emotion. Often, a feeling like sadness or hurt lies beneath the anger.

Anger sometimes starts with something much simpler than mere hatred. It’s rooted in selfishness.

  • I want my way.
  • I want to be respected.
  • I want to be heard.
  • I want things done my way.
  • I want people to recognize that I’m right.
  • I want my plans to work.
  • I want someone else to change.

When I don’t get what I want, frustration begins. If I hold onto that frustration, it can become anger.

Philippians 2:3–4 tells us to “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

That Scripture gives us the opposite of selfishness: humility. Humility is seeing God for who he is and ourselves for who we are. When we are prideful and selfish, we are making ourselves God. Instead, we need to let God be God. He knows what is best because he created us.

The two greatest commands are to love God and to love others as ourselves. We love others best when we put their interests ahead of our own. This doesn’t mean letting them walk over us or always giving in to their way, but it does mean listening to their desires, wants, and thoughts with understanding.

A Personal Example: Bedtime

As I said, my wife is a host home provider, which means we have mentally handicapped people living in our home. For a time, we had only 2. We recently had the opportunity to take on another. I was generally against the idea. I think it’s too much of a burden on my wife. We’ve had 3; it seemed to overwhelm her at times. Also, to have 3, we need to consolidate our girls into one room. They were 9 and 11 at the time and beginning to express their own independence. They wanted to decorate and arrange their room however they wanted. It isn’t easy to get them to agree. They wanted their own room.

We’ve twice turned down potential clients. We prayed and asked friends to pray. Each time, to my relief, we felt God said, “No.” We didn’t fight, though we disagreed. My wife felt stressed and concerned each time. She really wanted the extra income and security of having 3, so if one leaves, she has 2. When the 3rd possibility was presented, it looked more like God was saying “yes.” I had to pray because our girls were definitely opposed to it, and I wasn’t exactly in favor of it.

As I prayed, it came to me to take our girls out to Starbucks and listen to their objections. We did. They objected, but as we talked, we started to consider committing to having one leave by the time the oldest was 13. Everyone agreed with this. My wife expected one of them to move out on their own by that time, which is why she wanted the security of having 3. We agreed that if one didn’t move out, we would let them go. It’s still a bumpy road.

We could have given in to what the girls wanted, or we could have demanded what their mother wanted. Instead, we listened, and we reached a third alternative.

I didn’t take my daughters to Starbucks to convince them I was right.

I took them there to hear them.

That distinction matters.

If I had already decided the answer, asking questions would have been nothing more than a debating tactic. I was waiting for them to finish so I could explain why they were incorrect.

Instead, I tried to listen.

When I stop trying to be heard and start trying to understand, conflict changes.

This situation could have exploded into anger. I could have been angry at my wife for wanting to separate our girls and possibly overwhelm our family. I could have been angry at my daughters for resisting. Instead, we chose to listen, pray, and seek God’s will together.

Listening Doesn’t Mean Agreeing

  • I can hear my wife without agreeing with her.
  • I can hear my children without giving them everything they ask for.
  • I can hear someone who disagrees with me without changing my beliefs.

Listening means I care enough to understand. Sometimes, after listening, I’ll still say no. But at least the other person knows that I heard them.

The Most Important Person to Listen To

Ecclesiastes 5:2 says, “Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God.”

There is someone else we need to listen to before we make our decisions: God.

Ecclesiastes warns us not to be hasty with our mouths or our hearts before God.

Sometimes I become so busy trying to make everyone else hear me that I forget to listen to God. Sometimes I so selfishly want my way that I fail to remember, “Thy will be done.”

I pray, but am I listening? Prayer is not just asking God for what we want. It’s not just telling him our problems. Prayer is not just asking God for what we want. It’s not just telling Him our problems. We also need to pause and listen—to seek His will through Scripture, the guidance of the Holy Spirit, and wise counsel. Put aside our agenda and our wants and ask, “What do you want, God?”

I ask God to bless my decision, but am I willing to change my decision if He leads me somewhere else?

Responding to Anger

Proverbs 15:1  says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” I’ve learned how true that is in my own home. When my kids are angry, and I respond angrily, I haven’t solved anything. I’ve added another angry person to the room. Or worse, I’ve brought my kids to tears. I’ve wounded them emotionally.

James 3:2 says, “We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is able, just like a person who puts a bit in a horse’s mouth, to control their whole body.”  James reminds us that we all stumble in many ways, especially in what we say. Controlling our tongue is difficult because our words reveal what is happening inside us.

When I’m angry, my words often reveal that I am thinking about myself.

  • I want.
  • I deserve.
  • You should.
  • You always.
  • You never.

Those words aren’t really about solving the problem.

They’re about defending myself, getting my selfish way.

Listen, Speak Carefully, and Forgive

Listening may prevent some conflicts, but we will still hurt each other. We are imperfect people living together. Even when we listen, we will misunderstand. Even when we speak gently, we will sometimes say the wrong thing.

That’s where forgiveness comes in.

Colossians 3:13 says to “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you”

When someone hurts us, our natural response is to defend ourselves and hold onto the offense. Scripture gives us another way: “forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

Forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending nothing happened. It doesn’t mean allowing someone to continue hurting us. It means giving up our desire for revenge and trusting God with justice.

Back to Bedtime

I’m not writing this because I’ve mastered anger. I’m writing it because God is teaching me how destructive my anger can be—and how much better His way is.

Sometimes I wish I could say I’ve figured this out. I haven’t. There are still evenings when we’re all tired, everyone is trying to get somewhere, nobody quite hears what the other person said, and frustration begins to rise.

But now I recognize the pattern. Someone says something. I misunderstand, become frustrated and want to defend myself. My voice gets louder. And suddenly, our peaceful family devotion has become a source of conflict.

That’s my signal. I need to look inward, not outward.

I remind myself:

Stop. Listen.

  • What is my wife actually saying?
  • What are my daughters actually saying?
  • What am I assuming?

And most importantly:

What is God asking me to do?

I don’t always get it right. In fact, I probably still get it wrong more times than right. I’m an imperfect human, but I’m learning that being quick to listen and slow to speak isn’t just good advice for avoiding arguments.

Being quick to listen and slow to speak isn’t just good advice for avoiding arguments. It’s a way of loving my family.

Scripture References:
James 1:19 (NIV): “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”
James 1:20 (NIV): “…because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
Proverbs 17:28: “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.”
Proverbs 10:19: “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.”
Proverbs 18:13: “To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.”
Ecclesiastes 5:2: “Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God.”
James 3:2: “We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is able, just like a person who puts a bit in a horse’s mouth, to control their whole body.”
Colossians 3:13: Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
James 3:2: We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.
Proverbs 15:1: A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

The Great War: Men vs. Elves in Elfin Lore ~ Poem

Fantasy kingdom with ornate castles, waterfalls, mountains, and a crescent moon

The Great War Between Men and Elves

It is known within elfin lore
Long ago before the great war
The birth of evil men and kings.

In the days before men were found,
Wisdom and virtue were renowned
Peace and harmony ruled the day.

Men were birthed from the blackened soil
Endowed with strength for work and toil
To better the land and the sea.

Men built noble architecture,
Stone, glass, and metallic structures
Surrounded by floral gardens,

Scarlet and violet flowers,
Accenting gold and white towers,
Encircled by pools of green and blue,

Falls descended like crystal tears,
Into serene, silent, still meres
From bronzed sculptured quiet faces.

Growing pride in charm and splendor
Men’s hearts began to surrender
To darkened prideful evil ways.

From the nymphs craftsmen learned to forge
Long spears, heavy chains and sharp swords,
Enchanted, mystic weaponry.

Elves deemed valor was doing right.
Men moved to see valor as might.
The divorce between men and elves.

Further Reading:

One in a series of fantasy poems.

Church Scandals and Sexual Sin: Understanding Before We Judge

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A Familiar Pattern

A pastor’s son was accused, convicted, and sentenced for having intercourse with a 16-year-old when he was in his twenties. The media ran stories the very next day. Social media began commenting, praising the victim and condemning the church and its pastor.

How often have we seen a scenario like this? A male religious leader falls into sexual sin, the church is accused of covering it up, the leader is condemned, and media coverage is negative toward the church and its leaders.

Meanwhile, in the church, people leave. Others defend the choices made. “It was an internal church matter involving its members and should be settled by its leadership.” Some sympathize with the leaders, while others condemn them.

But what if, before we choose a side, we tried to understand what each person might be experiencing?

I’m not suggesting that understanding excuses wrongdoing. It doesn’t. I’m suggesting that we sometimes make judgments before we understand the people involved.

Could It Be Different?

I’ve written a few times in these blogs about understanding the other side. The idea is based on Stephen Covey‘s principle of seeking first to understand, then to be understood. Let’s try to do that here. Let’s see if we can understand both sides.

The Young Woman

Let’s begin with the young woman. Whatever the precise circumstances of the relationship, we should remember that she is a person, not merely a headline or a legal accusation. If she experienced coercion, manipulation, or abuse, she may carry wounds that outsiders cannot see. If she made choices she now regrets, she may also carry guilt and shame. Either way, she needs truth, compassion, and an opportunity to be heard.

Understanding her perspective doesn’t require us to assume every detail of her story. It means recognizing that there is a human being behind the accusation.

There is an unfair perception toward women who have sex outside of marriage. In the Biblical story of the woman caught in adultery in John 7:53–8:11, the religious leaders ask Jesus what is to be done to the woman caught in the act of adultery. There is no mention of the man involved. Women are often the ones condemned historically. You even see it in literature such as The Scarlet Letter. So this young woman lives with this unfair perception.

Shame Blame Pattern

When we feel guilty, one of the often-used defenses against the shame is to blame someone else. We’ve seen it since Adam blamed Eve in Genesis after eating the forbidden fruit. It is no surprise that this young woman wants all the blame on the young man. Very few of us ever examine ourselves.

There is a principle I’ve learned in recovery: own your part. That principle is essential—but we must be careful about where we apply it. Owning our own choices does not mean taking responsibility for another person’s choices. A person who has been harmed does not become responsible for the harm simply because she made mistakes of her own.

For those of us examining our own lives, however, the principle remains powerful: What part is mine? What do I need to confess? What do I need to change?

Male Leadership Stigma

There is also a stigma toward male leaders who fall sexually. At the beginning of this post, I mentioned the repeated pattern. This pattern creates a paradigm, a point of view that we apply to all similar situations. This is easy. We don’t want to think for ourselves. We don’t want to research facts, so we make a quick judgment based on our beliefs and established paradigms. It is no surprise, again, that people follow the pattern of of accusing the church and its leaders of wrong doing.

There is also the fact that the church and its leadership have hurt others. Some have been hurt by other males, not necessarily in leadership—people who have been hurt put up defenses to shield themselves from further hurt. They also come to the defense of others who have experienced something similar. They can empathize with those hurt.

Knowing some of these possibilities and patterns, it’s easy to see why the victim accuses the other of wrongdoing. I’m not implying this is wrong; I’m trying to understand why this happens from the accuser’s perspective.

The Young Man

The young man also had a moral failure. Being in leadership, as I said, there is also a negative perception toward male leaders who fall sexually. Following a similar pattern of wanting to take away guilt, it is easy to see fault in his accuser.

There is also hurt on the accused’s side. The young man is now married and has a newborn baby girl. While his moral failure was known to his wife, these court proceedings bring the failure to the forefront. Can you imagine how his wife must feel? Can you imagine how the young man must feel? Not only do you have to deal with this moral failure again and how it affects your marriage, but you have to do so while the world watches and your life is all over the media.

Being in confinement, the young man is not able to see and hold his newborn. As a father myself, I can relate to the feelings associated with not being able to see and hold my child. As a husband and a father, I know I want to be involved and present with my wife and kids. This young man is not allowed to do either.

I write this not to excuse behavior but to stir up empathy, empathy that I feel as I consider the situation. My point isn’t to excuse; it’s to understand.

The Church

For church leadership, there is scripturally based doctrine that believers should not take one another to court. This is found in1 Corinthians 6:1-8, where the Apostle Paul rebukes the Corinthian Christians for suing one another in secular courts.

Some Christians have interpreted this passage as meaning that conflicts within the church should be handled internally. Others distinguish Paul’s teaching about civil lawsuits between believers from situations involving criminal conduct, abuse, or danger to others.

I don’t want to settle that theological debate in this article. My point is simply that the church may be operating from a theological framework that outsiders don’t understand.

Understanding that framework doesn’t mean we should automatically agree with every decision made by church leadership. It means we should understand why they may have acted as they did before we judge their motives.

The Family

Sin rarely affects only the person who commits it.

It spreads outward.

A husband’s sin affects his wife. A parent’s choices affect his children. A church leader’s failure affects his congregation. And when the story becomes public, the consequences spread even further.

One person’s wrongdoing can create pain in many lives.

Recognizing that doesn’t lessen the responsibility of the person who did wrong. It reminds us that sin is rarely as isolated as we imagine.

In all these cases of sexual sin, we need to remember how it affects the family. It is not only the two who had intercourse who are affected. The family of each is affected. The church family is affected. Even observers are affected.

The Young Woman’s Family

In the case of the young 16-year-old, we can imagine that her parents must have felt devastated. As parents, we leave our kids with other adults, trusting they will behave as adults, protect our children, and certainly not harm them. When harm comes to our children, the hurt is unbearable. Again, the pattern of shame and blame enters the situation. Even if it is no fault of the parents, they feel a sense of shame for what happened to their child. We, as parents, question why we left our kids in the care of others where they were hurt. So, naturally, we, like Adam, want to blame to remove our own shame.

The Young Man’s Family

For the young man’s family, it is even more complex. A pastor’s son is expected to be above par. When not, it is often seen as the pastor’s fault. Even if the parents are not leaders or pastors, they are often blamed when their child fails. This too brings feelings of shame for the parents. Naturally, the easiest person to blame is the accuser.

The Church Family

For the church family, there is hurt as well. When the church you attend is in the news, people wonder why you belong to such a fallen church. Often, the shame felt leads to blaming church leadership. People leave because of the shame they feel.

The Problem With Social Media

Social media encourages us to make judgments quickly.

  • We read a headline, see a few comments, and decide who is right and who is wrong.
  • We don’t know the history.
  • We don’t know the people.
  • We may not even know all the facts.
  • Yet we feel qualified to pronounce judgment.

A social media post gives us a snapshot. A human life is a story.

We should be slow to judge when we don’t know the whole story.

That doesn’t mean we ignore wrongdoing. It means we distinguish between knowing what someone did and assuming we know everything about that person.

A Better Way

While it may not be as simple as I conjectured, I do know that shame and blame are certainly factors involved. I also believe the remedy is confession and listening.

Confession

In recovery groups, we are taught to confess our part. When we confess, we release shame, especially when confessing to someone who understands the struggle.

  • Proverbs 28:13 — Highlights that confessing and forsaking sins leads to mercy, unlike concealing them.
  • Psalm 32:5 — Describes the relief of confessing sins directly to God.
  • Psalm 51:17 — Emphasizes that God accepts a broken and contrite heart.

In Psalm 32:3, David describes unconfessed sin as bones wasting away, but at the beginning points to the relief that comes from confession, saying it is blessed to be forgiven.

Confession can only happen if we examine ourselves and see our faults. We need to confess them to God and to each other.

Listening

James 1:19 says, “Let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak.” We need to listen not only to hear the words, but to understand. We need to understand the other point of view. The other needs to know we understand their point of view.

I wonder how many problems would be solved if we just listened before we spoke.

In this particular case, I know there was a confession and attempts to listen. I’m not sure where it broke down. I’m sad that it did before the issue was resolved.

For the general public, we need to understand the other point of view. When I look at social media comments, I’m sad. I know a bit about both sides of the story, and I see how people make quick judgments without knowing the facts. It grieves my heart.

Trying to understand another person’s perspective doesn’t mean agreeing with them. It doesn’t mean excusing sin. It doesn’t mean declaring someone innocent. And it doesn’t mean declaring someone guilty before we’ve heard the facts.

Understanding means being willing to see the person and the circumstances from more than one angle.

When Understanding Becomes Dangerous

There is a danger with understanding, too. Understanding someone’s motives must never become an excuse for their behavior.

  • We can understand why someone lied without saying that lying is acceptable.
  • We can understand why someone committed adultery without saying adultery is acceptable.
  • We can understand why a church leader protected someone from the law without saying that protecting wrongdoing is acceptable.
  • And we can understand the pain, confusion, or choices of someone who has been hurt without blaming that person for the actions of someone who harmed them.

Understanding explains. It does not excuse.

Mercy without truth becomes permissiveness. Truth without mercy becomes cruelty. We need both

Jesus showed compassion to sinners without calling sin righteousness. In my example of the woman caught in Adultery, after her accusers left, Jesus didn’t condemn her or throw a stone, but he did tell her to go and sin no more. He didn’t condemn her, nor did he condone her behavior. We can do the same.

Before We Choose a Side

We can’t solve all the world’s problems. We can’t solve all our own problems. But we can take a step in the right direction.

Before I condemn someone, I can ask:

  • What is the point of view of the one with whom I disagree?
  • What are the feelings of the other side?
  • Am I responding to facts or to a familiar pattern?
  • What assumptions am I making?
  • What is my blind spot? What am I not seeing to have a complete picture?
  • What has influenced my perspective and paradigm?
  • Am I willing to listen to someone I disagree with?
  • What part of this belongs to me?
  • What do I need to confess?
  • Most importantly, what do I need to change?

I don’t have to:

  • excuse wrongdoing to understand someone.
  • agree with someone to listen to them.
  • defend someone to have compassion for them.
  • condemn someone simply because everyone around me is condemning them.

Jesus gives us a difficult standard. He calls us to speak truth, but He also calls us to love. He calls us to recognize sin, but He also calls us to examine ourselves.

Perhaps the next time we see a familiar pattern unfold in the news, we should pause before choosing a side.

  • Listen.
  • Learn.
  • Examine yourself.
  • Seek the truth.

And remember that behind every headline are people—people who have made choices, people who have been hurt, people who need accountability, people who need forgiveness, and people who need God’s grace.

Understanding explains. It does not excuse. But understanding may be the first step toward responding with both truth and grace.

We can’t solve all the world’s problems. We can’t solve all our own problems, but we can take a step in the right direction. Instead of immediately blaming others for what’s wrong, we can look inside and ask God to change US from the inside out.

Dolly Parton’s Legacy: Inspiring Childhood Literacy

Rocking chair, books, and coffee on a porch overlooking sunset mountains

Dolly Parton, Books, and the Gift of Imagination

We’ve all heard the news of the recent passing of Dolly Parton, singer, songwriter, entrepreneur, and philanthropist. She died on August 25, 2026, at the age of 80.

I find it strange that I feel sad about the death of a celebrity I never knew personally. Perhaps because we “see” celebrities so much in the media, they become familiar to us. We hear their voices, watch their interviews, listen to their songs, and learn pieces of their stories. It can almost feel as though we know them.

When a celebrity dies, I often find myself researching their life. My curiosity is stirred, and I’m amazed by what I discover.

That’s what happened with Dolly Parton.

Most people know Dolly as a singer and songwriter. Many know about her business success and Dollywood. But as I learned more about her life, I was especially interested in something that has little to do with her music.

Dolly Parton has given hundreds of millions of books to children.

Why?

The answer begins with her childhood.

A Child of Faith and Poverty

Dolly grew up poor in Locust Ridge in the mountains of East Tennessee. She was one of twelve children raised in a small one-room home in the Great Smoky Mountains. Her family had little money and few material possessions. There was no electricity or running water.

But poverty didn’t mean that Dolly’s family lacked something important.

  • They had faith.
  • They had family.
  • And they had music.

Dolly’s father worked hard to provide for his family. He would get up early to work on the farm and then go to another job to earn money. He did whatever he could to put food on the table.

Dolly’s childhood wasn’t easy, but it helped shape the woman she would become.

Her family was deeply connected to the church. Her grandfather was a preacher in a local mountain church, and Dolly began singing hymns and playing guitar when she was a child.

Faith became part of the foundation of her life.

Dolly has spoken openly about her belief in God throughout her life. Her music includes numerous gospel songs, and her faith has continued to influence her work.

She believed that with God all things were possible. The belief shapped her legacy.

But there was another lesson from her childhood that would eventually inspire one of her greatest contributions to children.

The Father Who Couldn’t Read

Dolly has described her father as one of the smartest men she ever knew.

He had a brilliant mind for numbers and a natural talent for business. He knew how to bargain and negotiate and could make a good deal. But there was something he couldn’t do. He couldn’t read or write. Her father had to leave school at a young age to work and help support his family. Growing up in rural Appalachia, educational opportunities were limited. His inability to read didn’t mean he lacked intelligence. Quite the opposite.

He was a smart, hardworking man who simply hadn’t been given the opportunity to learn something many of us take for granted. Dolly saw how that limitation affected him.

Years later, that memory would become the seed of an extraordinary idea.

Motivated by Faith—and by Her Father

Dolly’s faith and upbringing shaped the way she viewed children and opportunity.

She had experienced poverty. She knew what it meant to grow up without many resources. And she knew what it was like to watch someone she loved have his opportunities limited because he couldn’t read.

She could have simply remembered her childhood. Instead, she did something with it.

In 1995, Dolly Parton founded Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library in her home county of Sevier County, Tennessee. She wanted to give children an opportunity her father had never had: the chance to grow up with books and develop a love of reading.

That small beginning became something enormous.

The Book Lady

The Imagination Library mails a new, age-appropriate book every month to registered children from birth through age five. There is no charge to participating families. Funding is shared between Dolly Parton’s organization and local community partners.

The program now operates in the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, Australia, and the Republic of Ireland.

And the numbers are staggering.

By the end of 2025, the Imagination Library had gifted 304,539,509 books since its founding. More than 40 million books were gifted during 2025 alone.

Think about that.

More than 300 million books.

One little girl growing up in the mountains of Tennessee remembered that her father couldn’t read, and decades later, motivated by faith, millions of children around the world are receiving books because of it.

That’s quite a legacy.

Why Give Children Books?

Why books?

Because books do more than teach children how to read.

Books introduce children to courage, sacrifice, kindness, forgiveness, perseverance, friendship, consequences, and countless other values.

  • A child meets a character who faces a difficult decision and gets to watch what happens.
  • A character makes a selfish choice and suffers the consequences.
  • Another character sacrifices for someone else.
  • Another forgives.
  • Another refuses to give up.

Through stories, children can encounter difficult questions in a safe environment.

They can learn from someone else’s mistakes without having to make those mistakes themselves.

That’s one reason I believe so strongly in reading with children.

Dolly’s Gift Goes Beyond Literacy

A free book says something to a child.

  • You matter.
  • Your imagination matters.
  • Your future matters.

The Imagination Library certainly encourages literacy, but its purpose goes beyond simply helping children learn to read. Its stated mission is to inspire a love of reading by putting quality books into children’s hands.

And there’s an important difference between giving a child a book and reading a book with a child.

When we read aloud together, we are not simply helping children develop vocabulary and reading skills. We are sharing an experience.

We can ask questions.

  • “What do you think she should do?”
  • “Why did he make that choice?”
  • “What would you have done?”
  • “Was that fair?”
  • “What does the Bible say about that?”

The book becomes a doorway into conversation.

I’ve written before about the importance of reading aloud with our kids. Reading together builds connection as well as literacy.

It’s similar to why I play with my kids.

When I get down on the floor and play a game with my daughters, I’m entering their world. I’m telling them without saying a word, What matters to you matters to me.

Games give us opportunities to learn, too. There are rules to follow, turns to take, victories to celebrate, and disappointments to handle. We learn how to win graciously and lose graciously.

In other words, ordinary family activities can become opportunities to teach character.

What Can Parents Learn From Dolly?

Most of us will never have millions of dollars to give away.

We don’t have to.

Dolly Parton’s example reminds us that we can start with what we have. Try these:

  • Read to your children.
  • Give them good books.
  • Visit the library.
  • Talk about the stories you read.
  • Ask questions.
  • Listen to their answers.
  • Build a family culture around books and stories.

We don’t have to wait until we have a foundation, a corporation, or a million dollars to invest in children.

We can start with one child and one book.

What Stories Are We Putting Into Our Children’s Hearts?

Dolly’s legacy also raises another question.

What books are we putting into our children’s hands?

If books teach lessons—and I believe they do—we need to pay attention to those lessons.

Not every book teaches the values we want our children to absorb. Some stories may contain ideas that contradict our family’s values or what Scripture teaches.

That doesn’t mean every book has to be perfect.

It does mean we should be intentional.

Ask quesitons like:

  • What is this story teaching?
  • What choices do the characters make?
  • What happens because of those choices?
  • What does the story celebrate?
  • Do those values agree with our family’s values?
  • Do they agree with Scripture?

I’ve written more about this in Choosing Books That Teach Life Lessons.

As an Author…

I know something about the power of putting a story into a child’s hands.

That’s one reason I wrote Redeeming Rhubarb.

  • I wanted children to enjoy a story about a mouse and a rat while wrestling with bigger questions about prejudice, forgiveness, friendship, courage, and doing what is right.
  • I don’t expect a book to replace a parent.
  • I want the book to help parents have conversations with their children.

That’s what I find so inspiring about Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library. Dolly understood something that I believe every parent should understand:

Books can open doors.

  • They open doors to imagination.
  • They open doors to knowledge.
  • They open doors to empathy.
  • They open doors to difficult questions.
  • And sometimes, they open doors to faith and character.

Dolly gave children books because she remembered what her father had been denied.

She took something painful from her childhood and turned it into something beautiful for millions of children.

That’s a legacy worth remembering.

A Legacy We Can Continue

Dolly Parton gave away more than 300 million books.

Most of us won’t come close to that number.

But perhaps we don’t need to.

  • We can give one book to one child.
  • We can sit beside that child and read it.
  • We can ask a question.
  • We can listen.
  • We can talk about the choices the characters made.
  • We can connect those choices to the values we want our children to develop.
  • And then we can pick up another book.

Perhaps that’s how a legacy begins. Not with millions of dollars. Not with fame. But with one child, one book, and one conversation.

Dolly Parton gave children the gift of imagination. We can help them use that imagination to learn, grow, and become the people God created them to be.

Discovering Pixies and Dreams in ‘The Gift of the Emerald Ring’

Four winged fairies dancing hand in hand in a moonlit wildflower meadow

The Gift of the Emerald Ring

Elfin children go out to play
Among painted flowers they sing,
‘ Please, pixies come and dance today.
What magical gifts will you bring? ‘

Elders laugh as they watch the sight
Of childish fantasies and dreams
With masked envy of their delight
And hidden fears of pixies’ schemes.

Children know what adults don’t see.
As pixies flutter and frolic,
But from adults pixies flee.
To dodge the feared melancholic.

‘ Please, pixies come and dance today.
What magical gifts will you bring? ‘
The toddler prince found it one day
A mystical emerald ring

With masked envy of their delight
And hidden fears of pixies’ schemes
The prince kept the ring out of sight
While pixies whispered in his dreams.

Children know what adults don’t see.
As pixies flutter and frolic.
Hiding the truths of what must be
In their playful childish rollick.

For Further Reading

This is one in a series of fantasy poems

5 Children’s Books That Teach Important Life Values

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Why Teach Values Through Literature?

Stories are a beautiful way to teach valuable lessons. Stories take away our defenses because events are happening to fictional characters. We are pulled into the events and feel for the characters. When we do, the characters can teach us through the consequences of their actions. It gives us a chance to learn from their mistakes without us making them ourselves.

A child may resist a lecture about honesty, courage, forgiveness, or kindness. But let that same child encounter a character who lies, and suddenly the child has an opportunity to see where dishonesty leads.

We can ask, “Was that a good choice?”

The child isn’t being lectured. We’re talking about a character in a story.

Then we can ask, “What would you have done?”

Now we’re talking about the child’s own values.

That is the power of literature. Stories create a safe place to wrestle with difficult questions.

Jesus understood the power of stories. Much of His teaching came through parables. Rather than simply telling people what to believe, He often placed them inside a story and allowed them to wrestle with its meaning.

Children can learn in the same way.

Criteria for Selecting Children’s Books

When choosing books to teach lessons, I prefer to look at the classics. They are timeless, and the lessons are often invaluable. Because these books have stood the test of time, we know the stories have entertained children over generations, and the lessons haven’t grown outdated.

Many of the classics also contain Christian values, sometimes because of the Christian culture in which they were written. Heidi, for example, contains themes of forgiveness and redemption. Heidi’s love helps restore her grandfather, and the story even draws on the biblical story of the Prodigal Son.

The Swiss Family Robinson was written by Johann David Wyss, whose story follows a family relying on God’s provision as they survive on a deserted island. The family regularly gives thanks to God for what He provides.

These stories weren’t written as children’s sermons. That’s part of what makes them so useful.

The story comes first. The lesson emerges from the story.

If you choose newer books, do a little research. Read the book yourself or read reliable summaries and reviews. Ask:

  • What lessons are being taught?
  • What choices do the characters make?
  • What happens as a result of those choices?
  • What values does the story celebrate?
  • Do those values align with our family’s values?
  • More importantly, do they align with Scripture?

Not every book will teach everything we want our children to learn. That’s okay. We don’t need every story to be perfect. We need to be intentional about what we put in front of our children and prepared to discuss what they encounter.

Don’t Just Read the Story—Discuss It

Reading the book is only the beginning.

One of my favorite ways to teach values through literature is to ask questions after—or sometimes even during—the story.

What did the character do?

Why did he do it?

Was it a good choice?

How did that choice affect other people?

What would you have done?

Has anything like that ever happened to you?

What does the Bible say about this?

These questions turn reading into a conversation.

I don’t want my children merely to know that a character made a good or bad choice. I want them to understand why it was good or bad and to begin thinking about how they would respond in a similar situation.

That distinction matters.

I’m not simply trying to give my children a list of rules. I want to help them develop the ability to recognize truth, evaluate choices, understand consequences, and make wise decisions when I’m not there to tell them what to do.

Five Classics, Five Opportunities to Teach Values

Treasure Island — Integrity and Courage

Jim Hawkins finds himself surrounded by people who are deceptive, selfish, and willing to betray others to get what they want. Yet Jim repeatedly has opportunities to choose courage and loyalty rather than simply looking out for himself.

That allows parents to ask, “What would you do if doing the right thing put you in danger?” Is courage the absence of fear, or doing what is right even when we’re afraid?

Heidi — Forgiveness and Redemption

Heidi provides a beautiful picture of how love and forgiveness can transform a hardened heart. Heidi’s grandfather has withdrawn from society because of bitterness and painful experiences. Heidi doesn’t lecture him into changing. Her presence, love, and childlike faith help soften his heart and reconnect him with others.

The story can lead to questions such as: Can love change someone? Is it possible to forgive someone who has hurt us? What happens when we refuse to forgive?

Heidi reads the story of the Prodigal Son to her grandfather, and it impacts him. He thought he was unworthy of love, but through this story and Heidi’s own love, he sees that redemption is possible.

A Little Princess — Character When Circumstances Change

Sara Crewe’s circumstances change dramatically. She goes from living a privileged life at boarding school to becoming a servant after her father dies and his fortune disappears.

Yet Sara tries to maintain her kindness, imagination, generosity, and dignity even when she has almost nothing.

That raises an important question for our children: Who are you when you don’t get what you want?

It is easy to be kind when life is going well. Sara shows us that character is revealed when circumstances become difficult.

Sara sacrifices for someone else, giving a beggar food when she is hungry herself. It’s easy to be generous when you have much, but much harder when you have little. Sara demonstrates true character and generosity, giving out of her own need, much like the Biblical story of the Widow’s Mite. Jesus commended a widow who gave all she had, while others gave from their abundance.

The Secret Garden — Transformation

Mary Lennox begins the story as a selfish, unpleasant, and lonely child. Through friendship, responsibility, nature, and caring for the secret garden, she begins to change.

The transformation is one of the most valuable lessons in the book: people can change.

Parents can ask, “Why was Mary unhappy at the beginning?” What caused her to change? Who helped her change? Can we choose to become different people?

The garden itself provides a wonderful picture for children. Something neglected and seemingly dead can be cared for until life begins to appear again.

That can open a conversation about our own hearts. What happens when we nurture something good? What happens when we neglect it?

Pollyanna — Gratitude and Choosing Joy

Pollyanna’s “glad game” can be more than just a cute idea for children. It can become a conversation about gratitude and perspective. Pollyanna doesn’t pretend that bad things aren’t bad. She chooses to look for something good even in difficult circumstances.

Parents can ask, “Does being grateful mean pretending everything is good?” What’s the difference between gratitude and ignoring problems? How can looking for something good change the way we respond to difficult circumstances?

This connects beautifully with Paul’s instruction to give thanks in all circumstances. Pollyanna gives children a story-based way to begin thinking about what that might look like.

The “glad game” was based on rejoicing scriptures. It was taught by Pollyanna’s missionary father, who counted more than 800 references to rejoicing and gladness in the Bible.

Stories Give Children Something to Remember

These books illustrate why I prefer teaching values through stories. I could tell my children, “Be courageous.” But Jim Hawkins gives them a picture of courage. I could tell them, “Forgive people.” Heidi gives them a picture of forgiveness and redemption. I could tell them, “Character matters more than circumstances.” Sara Crewe gives them a picture of that truth. I could tell them, “People can change.” Mary Lennox gives them a picture of transformation. I could tell them, “Be grateful.” Pollyanna gives them a picture of choosing gratitude and joy.

The story gives the lesson a face.

Years later, a child may not remember the lecture we gave about courage. But they may remember Jim Hawkins.

They may not remember everything we said about forgiveness. But they may remember Heidi and her grandfather.

That’s the beauty of literature. A story gives children something to remember when the lesson becomes necessary.

Stories create a safe place for children to wrestle with difficult questions.

Choose Books With Imperfect Characters

Perfect characters aren’t very interesting—and they’re not very useful for teaching children.

Children need to see characters who make mistakes, struggle with temptation, become afraid, get angry, make selfish choices, and sometimes make things right.

Why?

Because children make mistakes too.

When a child sees a character struggle with jealousy, fear, pride, dishonesty, or selfishness, the child can recognize something of himself in that character. The story gives us a way to talk about those struggles without immediately making the conversation personal.

“What do you think she should have done?”

is sometimes a much easier question for a child to answer than:

“Why did you do that?”

Stories allow us to approach difficult character issues indirectly. Then, once the child begins thinking about the character, the conversation can naturally move toward real life.

Look for Consequences

One of the most valuable things stories can show children is that choices have consequences.

  • A character lies and loses someone’s trust.
  • A character is selfish and loses a friendship.
  • A character shows courage and protects someone vulnerable.
  • A character forgives and begins to restore a broken relationship.
  • A character refuses to give up and eventually succeeds.

These consequences help children understand that character isn’t just about following rules. Our choices affect other people.

And sometimes stories show something even more important: doing the right thing doesn’t always produce an immediate reward.

A character may sacrifice something and suffer because of it. A character may forgive someone who doesn’t deserve forgiveness. A character may tell the truth even when lying would be easier.

Those are opportunities to talk about biblical values that go deeper than “good choices lead to good things.”

Connect the Story to Scripture

As a Christian parent, I don’t want to stop with the moral of the story.

Does the story echo something Scripture teaches?

  • A story about sacrifice can lead us to talk about Christ.
  • A story about forgiveness can lead us to the Lord’s Prayer.
  • A story about loving an enemy can lead us to Jesus’ command in Matthew 5:44.
  • A story about courage can lead us to Joshua 1:9.
  • A story about caring for someone who is hurting can lead us to the Good Samaritan.
  • The story gives us a bridge.

We can start with the character and eventually arrive at Scripture.

But there is an important caution here: we shouldn’t force a biblical lesson into every story.

Sometimes a story teaches something that doesn’t completely align with Scripture. Sometimes it teaches a mixture of truth and error. That’s not necessarily a reason to throw the book away.

It may be an opportunity for an even better conversation.

We can say, “The character did this, but what does the Bible say about that?”

Now our children aren’t simply absorbing a message from a book. They are learning to compare what they encounter with God’s Word.

Create a Reading Routine

Choose a regular time to read with your kids.

We often read as part of the bedtime routine. Keep it as regular as you can.

It doesn’t have to be elaborate. You don’t need a special reading chair or an hour of uninterrupted time. Even fifteen or twenty minutes can become an important part of family life.

When our children were younger, we would snuggle together and read. Sometimes we read only one book. Other times, we’d read a few or even the same one again.

One of my favorite family memories is reading Charlotte’s Web together, a chapter at a time. We weren’t simply completing a book. We were sharing an experience.

That’s what I want parents to remember.

The goal isn’t to get through more books. The goal is to let good books get into our children.

Make Reading a Conversation

Don’t feel like you have to interrupt every page with a question. Sometimes the best thing you can do is enjoy the story together.

But when a natural opportunity appears, take it.

If a character makes an interesting choice, pause.

If something surprises your child, ask what they think.

If your child becomes angry at a character, ask why.

If your child admires someone, ask what they admire about that person.

And listen.

The conversation may go somewhere you didn’t expect.

That’s okay.

In fact, that’s often the best part.

Our children are developing their own understanding of right and wrong. We have the privilege of helping them think through those ideas while they are still young and while they still want to talk with us.

Let Stories Become Part of Family Life

Over time, something wonderful happens when you read this way.

Stories become shorthand for values.

You may encounter a situation in everyday life and say, “Remember what happened to Sara?”

Or, “That reminds me of what Charlotte did for Wilbur.”

Or, “What would Heidi do?”

The story has moved beyond the pages of the book. It has become part of your family’s shared language.

That is one of the reasons I love teaching values through literature.

We can’t always be beside our children when they face difficult choices. We can’t always tell them what to do.

But we can give them stories that help them recognize courage when they see it, understand compassion when it is needed, recognize selfishness when it tempts them, and remember that forgiveness is possible.

A good story doesn’t simply entertain a child. It gives a child a picture of who they can become.

Start With One Book

You don’t need to build a huge library.

Choose one good book.

Read it together.

Talk about the characters.

Ask questions.

Listen to your child’s answers.

Look for opportunities to connect the story to Scripture and to everyday life.

Then pick up another book.

Over the years, those stories will accumulate—not just on the bookshelf, but in your child’s imagination and character.

And someday, when your child faces a difficult choice, you may not be there to answer.

But perhaps a story will be.

And perhaps, through that story, your child will remember something you talked about together.

That is why teaching values through literature is worth the time.

We aren’t just raising children who know how to read. We’re helping raise people who know how to live.